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This exposure stuff is...  "character assassination!" The only thing exposure assassinates is the A.
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Not a rant, but a comment.
H was looking over my shoulder as I was reading this thread last night. Not knowing it was a rant thread, he commented that exposure is not "character assassination", but is a "life ring" for the wayward.
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BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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He gets it. I'd say you should hang on to him, am. He's a good one!
Of course, he should hang on to you even harder. You are his "life ring".
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Yep, I think we will be sticking with each other. I have been his "life ring" twice - once on D-day and once after the false recovery. That's my limit though and H knows it. Next June, we will celebrate our 30th anniversary.
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Paragraphs, please!
If you're not going to give me the Reader's Digest version, then at least give me paragraphs.
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Are you going to sit down with a turd and ask it to stop stinking?
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***EDIT***
You know, I was going to read the 40+ pages of his thread. So I read the first page and see he has not exposed the affair. Click to page 40 and, what, he still hasn't exposed and is concerned what his adult children will think.
*sigh*
But, if nothing else, it sounds like pep made a funny on the thread involving a piece of poo so at least something was accomplished.
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Are you going to sit down with a turd and ask it to stop stinking? I heard on my morning radio show that more fiber in your diet will solve that.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Are you going to sit down with a turd and ask it to stop stinking? I heard on my morning radio show that more fiber in your diet will solve that. They lied!
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New rant: Bad advice. ![[Linked Image from 2.bp.blogspot.com]](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_iKcZ3qcCmyo/R5e-PBBIdfI/AAAAAAAAEv4/GIaflozPhx4/s400/Bad+Advice.gif)
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"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
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{rant} "It was only an emotional affair."
Spoken by a WS, I suspect a little white-washing of the facts, if not outright lying. (Or, a lack of opportunity due to distance) Spoken by a timid/frightened WS, I suspect denial and hampered vision via the wearing of rose-colored glasses combined with wishful thinking. And, the word "only" has no purpose except to downgrade the importance of the experience. "It was an emotional affair." <~~ Works better for me. I downgrade my suspicious  mind. {/rant}
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An emotional affair is only a back seat away from a PA.
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
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The eternal question.... Often a thread title. A wounded one will often ask the forum..... Hope springs eternal in the human breast;
Man never Is, but always To be blest:
The soul, uneasy and confin'd from home,
Rests and expatiates in a life to come.
� Alexander Pope, An Essay on Man
The answer is always "Yes". But what is hope without willingness to take action? One might "hope" for fresh air, but yet refuse to get out of the chair to open the window. Their "hope" has been downgraded to wishful thinking. What if hope is provided by following a PLAN of action? What if one's "hope" will only become fruitful after the sweat of one's effort? When a risk-averse MB'er whimpers: "Is there hope?" ... What he/she is really asking for is results that do not require courage/risk/effort. �To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.� ~ Unknown.We often respond to the "Is there hope?" with a detailed, step-by-step "This is how it's done" MB-style reply.
Sometimes this generous effort is rewarded with:
Yes but ....
Being totally ignored ....
A lengthy, overly detailed novella of past troubles ....Here is MY question: (at long  last)
IS THERE HOPE for the risk-averse hopers?
Well, is there? 
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A more IMPORTANT RANT !!!!!!
(because it's seasonal)
Why can't I get the stupid plastic wrap off my peppermint candy canes without them breaking ??????????
And, where are the Christmas & Hanukah smilies ?????
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A more IMPORTANT RANT !!!!!!
(because it's seasonal)
Why can't I get the stupid plastic wrap off my peppermint candy canes without them breaking ?????????? LOL. I was JUST ranting about this last night, as I struggled to open six candy canes with 6 pairs of little eyes waiting eagerly.
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