Well, this is likely to be long. Sorry...
My wife and I have been married for 7 years together over 10. She's from Mexico and we meet in college, she was 19 and I was 21. We married right after finishing college and moved together in a new city. We moved to Texas to be close to her family. While things haven't been perfect, I've really felt loved by her and have great memories with her. Throughout the years we have hit some rough spots. I've always felt that she harbors her issue rather than working them out. With that said, she's mentioned divorce a few times over the 7 years. In the past it was always due to her feeling of losing her identity living in the US with an American guy. We have a lot of Latin friends and she wants that. She wants to come home and speak Spanish, she wants to be able to talk with me about things that only a Latin husband would be able to provide her.
Based on these feelings she's had doubts about our marriage, but at some point decided that we would try to start a family. We'd agreed to wait on a family until we were financially stable. We met that goal and started trying to have a baby. Of course, it couldn't just happen for us. After a few months of trying she started taking her Basel temps every morning like clockwork. Her doctor told her everything looked fine and to keep trying. If it didn't happen after 8 months we could try some other things. Along the way, things became very stressful. We both wanted the family, but it wasn't happening like all our friends and at the same time her feelings of doubt kept coming up. At the end of the 8 months approx. I went and had a semen analysis and my count came back very low. This news was devastating to both of us, but now she all she could think about was the doubts she had and how her possibility of being a mother was 0% now. She has slipped into a deep depression. She only communicates at work and with her parents and sister periodically. She hasn't told them about the doubt she has in our marriage or the fact that she wants a divorce. They don't feel comfortable talking to her about it unless she brings it up. She shut out all of her friends and refuses to get professional help. I've actually started seeing a therapist at my work which has been helping me greatly. I've read a lot of the leading books on depression to understand her pain. She cries frequently and spends most of her spare time on the internet. I've contacted both her family and her friends to try to get them involved. She doesn't respond to friends and they've pretty much stopped trying. And like I said earlier, her folks seem scared to talk to her about it. I've told them that I feel she is very depressed and needs help, but they haven't taken the steps to encourage her or express concern even.
Let me say that I truly love my wife, she is smart, beautiful, practical, great sense of humor, and just fun to be with. I knew from the very beginning that she was someone I could spend the rest of my life with.
Fast forward to today, it's about 7 or 8 months from when we got the initial news about my infertility. She spends a lot of time researching divorce. She's told me that she wants a divorce at least weekly for most of this time. I've made every attempt to get her to get help. Hoping that even if it didn't save our marriage it would at least bring her to peace with her decision to divorce. She seems very very conflicted and her outlook seems to change almost daily. About a few weeks back we actually even put an offer on a piece of land we had been looking at. This tells me that she was thinking things could work. The property fell through at no fault of our own.
Things have been on the decline rapidly. I recently (4 months ago) had a surgery to try to fix the low count. Since it takes 3 months to see any results, I think she has been buying her time. At the 3 months mark, I did another analysis and it came back really bad. Worse than before. This seemed to have spun her even further down. This past weekend she changed into her bed close Friday night after work and didn't change until Sunday night before bed.
My focus has really been on giving her a stable, non-confrontational at home. I've taken up to cooking and cleaning nearly every meal, everyday. I don't ask her to help, but let her help if she offers and I need it. I've told her that I will not fight her on a divorce, if she wants it she has to do the leg work is all. She hasn't gotten to that point yet.
She's lost the faith that she had. She told me the other day is that she now thinks we created God to deal with the things we can't handle. I'm not a religious person at all, but don't denounce God. I've told her that she should keep her dream/desire/hope to have a family. Like I said before, she's very attractive and very smart. I tell her she would have no problem finding someone to marry her if she leaves me. She says she doesn't even know if she wants that. I know she doesn't want to feel like she's starting over, but she feels like she can never be happy with our marriage. I truly feel that a month or two with a good therapist can help her resolve a lot of the issues she fighting.
We could have a family with IFV, but she doesn't feel like that is something she could do with the doubt she has.
I know she cares about me a lot. We've spent 1/3 of our lives together. Is it possible that I'm blind and that we have a bad marriage? I love being with her and can't imagine a life without her now.

So the advice, I'm looking for: I'm hoping there is a woman on this forum from another country living in the US with an American husband. Someone that has felt similar to how my wife feels. Also looking for anyone fighting infertility where the husband or wife is unsure about the marriage now.

As you can tell, I want to save this marriage and start down the IVF path or IUI if my surgery turns out successful. All she wants is a Latin family and natural conception of a family.

Thanks to everyone that reads this and can offer any guidance. And my apologizes for all my grammar and spelling errors...

Infertility is one of the hardest things a couple can go through. I know first hand.

I would move to the MB101 section, not worry so much about the interracial aspect (my husband is catholic and I'm Jewish - how much different can you get!?!).