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#2564501 11/15/11 08:02 PM
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...care for an unrepentent WS because they are sick? [\rant]
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Originally Posted by 92f2
...care for an unrepentent WS because they sick? [\rant]
No.

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Originally Posted by 92f2
...care for an unrepentent WS because they are sick? [\rant]
It depends on what stage you are in. In Plan A, you should meet the ENs that can be safely met, and express a willingness to meet all ENs once the affair is over.

You are not supposed to turn your back on your spouse in Plan A. Caring for them whilst they are sick would be legitimate in Plan A.

Nobody says that "you are supposed to" do anything for an unrepentant WS if you do not want to. If you want to save your marriage, though, showing care towards a WS in Plan A, or a selfish, entitled WS whose affair has ended, shouldn't be something that you find offensive. If you DO find it offensive then why do you want to save your marriage? Do you really want to save it?

Have you read the MB plans and programme?

BW
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His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.

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