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#2565508 11/18/11 02:33 PM
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hello i really dont know what to do, i just got married a month ago and im pregnant. before i got married i told my husband i'd only marry him if he promised not to swear, smoke weed, or drink anymore. since then he's broken every promise, hes been swearing at me everyday and whats worse is that 3 different days he just left the house after we argued and slept at his familys house and ignored my phone calls the whole day/night. im a christian and i i've been praying that he'd treat me good andd also become a devoted christan (he recently got baptized but he did it only to please our pastor) and the other day he said church is boring. ive been crying almost everyday and im really confused he says he loves me but he lies and hurts me and he doesnt even think hes wrong he just thinks im crazy. last night he even said he hopes the baby dies and then after said he didnt mean it and he hopes he dies instead for saying that. today when he left he said he wont come back ever and said really hurtful things. im thinking i should go to new jersey (where i grew up and my father is) for a while and just see if he learns a lesson. please let me know your opinion. thank you


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today he called and said we need to talk and apologized, i told him theres no point to be together unless he completely changes and he said he understands, but idk if he means it. i just wanted to clear the fact that hes not an alcoholic he just drinks sometimes but i dont like it at all, and he used to smoke weed everyday plenty of times but now its just once in a while. i feel like maybe if we start reading the bible together and we continue going to church (since he just started going when we got married )maybe he'll change for the better.


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if I may give my opinion, do not think about him. Think about your baby. If he wants to leave you, then be it, but please take care of your baby. If you are a devoted Christian as you said and surrender your life to Him only, then He will find a way for you. Be patient smile

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