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Okay let me give you the low down. I had an affair this Dec 26 two years ago. My wife gave me the gift of a second chance. We have been to marriage therapy, with our last session that was a month ago as our therapist said we were ready to graduate. Things were going good till Friday when I have noticed my wife had been acting weird. I asked her if she was happy, she stated NO. I admit I have let things slide, not getting things done right away, being snarky from time to time in a humorous way. She stated I was back sliding and didn't want us to end up how we were two years ago before my affair started. Well I did a little digging and remembered she has an email account that she thought I didn't know about. I logged in and saw heartbreak. A few emails, and then there revealing chat history. I confronted by wife, she refuses to stop talking to him as she like talking to him. And she doesn't like me presureing her as she says it just pushes her closer to him. I need help in what to do before this gets physical. She says she feels like she is in a corner. I told her if goes any farther we are done. I need help please.
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I should add that she has stated that if I contact him were are over. She has said she needs space
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I should add that she has stated that if I contact him were are over. She has said she needs space You can probably kill this affair very easily and save your marriage if you confront this rat and expose the affair. Is he married? Who is he? Please take the time to read the Exposure link in my signature. If she needs some "space" I would suggest you clear out a little corner of your garage for her. Be a gentleman and put a space heater and spittoon out there for her. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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As far as I know he is not married. I will read your exposure 101.
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I read the exposure 101, but extremely sacred to do that. I don't to ruin any remainimg chances. Is there another course of action. Plus her family wants nothing to do with her after my affair.
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JHT,
I should add that she has stated that if I contact him were are over.
Actually if OM continues to contact your W you are over no matter what, remember you are dealing with an addict.
As far as I know he is not married.
Everything the OM says can be assumed to be a LIE.
God Bless
Gamma
Last edited by Gamma; 11/22/11 09:36 PM.
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I read the exposure 101, but extremely sacred to do that. I don't to ruin any remainimg chances. Is there another course of action. Plus her family wants nothing to do with her after my affair. You ruin any remaining chance by enabling the affair by keeping it a secret. Affairs thrive on secrecy, so helping her hide it only serves to help the AFFAIR. You can't save a marriage if you enable the affair. We can't help you if you choose to enable the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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