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So I don't really want to talk to friends and family about this situation as I just want a non-biased opinion on this.

My husband and I have been separated for over seven months now. I was all for getting a divorce, but then I began praying and really seeking what God wants for my marraige...I was able to forgive my husband and something changed in my heart towards him.

We began talking a little bit, and we both asked for forgiveness and forgave each other. But that didn't mean we were going to get back together. We were just ok with the fact that we were getting along and what not.

Well. We ended up having sex recently. Again, we are still not wanting to get back together, at least not anytime soon. I just want to know if this is silly of me...I still love him and he still loves me. If he was willing to work through everything down the road I would be too. But is it dumb for us to be hooking up even if we are still married?

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Originally Posted by canadianmama
So I don't really want to talk to friends and family about this situation as I just want a non-biased opinion on this.

My husband and I have been separated for over seven months now. I was all for getting a divorce, but then I began praying and really seeking what God wants for my marraige...I was able to forgive my husband and something changed in my heart towards him.

We began talking a little bit, and we both asked for forgiveness and forgave each other. But that didn't mean we were going to get back together. We were just ok with the fact that we were getting along and what not.

Well. We ended up having sex recently. Again, we are still not wanting to get back together, at least not anytime soon. I just want to know if this is silly of me...I still love him and he still loves me. If he was willing to work through everything down the road I would be too. But is it dumb for us to be hooking up even if we are still married?
I think it's 'dumb' to waste precious days apart when you're married. And I wouldn't call it 'hooking up' - you're having sexual relations with your husband. As God intended.

Why did the two of you separate in the first place?

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Why did you get separated in the first place?

edited to add: sorry to be redundant, didn't read all of MB's reply.

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