As it is sometimes slow around here at times, like weekends, holidays and such, and it seems that we can get newly BS every day, I thought I would take the time to make a thread that would help the newly BS. Feel free to add to it whatever you need to, as I am sure I will miss some important things. Also, if there is already a thread about this, link it. It is hard to always find links to things without great vets around.
Okay. Now for the betrayed spouses, we are sorry that you are here and welcome.
There are some important questions that we need answered before we can help you.
How old are you? How old is your WS(wayward spouse)?
Do you have any children? How old are they?
How long have you been married? Is this the first marriage for both of you?
How did your WS meet their AP?
How long did the A last?
How did you find out about the A?
Have you ordered the book Surviving an Affair by Dr Harley? Have you read it?Now there are some links to some threads, articles and such that you should read BEFORE we can help you fully. These are the links
Basic Concepts How to survive Infidelity? Articles Q&A Columns Abbreviations and Acronyms Longhorn's thread for BS Wat's Guideline's General Welcome Notable posts After you have read all of this info, you should try reading others threads as well. You will see some VERY similar stories to your own and the advice will most likely be the same. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.
If you fill out your signature line on your profile page with some basic info, we will be able to keep your story straight. Unfortunately, there are A LOT of people on these boards, and some of us don't come on here often.
Reading people's siggy's(signature line) may also help you see who has recovered, either personally or maritally. You can click on their name, go to view posts, topics created and go to the first page. You may find their story useful.
Many of the things that you see advised to you may seem counter-intuitive. It seemed that way to all of us too, AT FIRST.
Also, we posters tend to give some
2x4's to help you out. Don't get discouraged. Listen to the advice. You may need to read your own thread a couple of times. We are here to help.
PLEASE MAKE SURE TO STAY ON ONE THREAD. AGAIN, A LOT OF POSTERS.
You CAN do this.
