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I'm sorry but no one is going to counter what Melody said. She is one of the best and knows her stuff. This is the plan set up by Dr Harley. She is just explaining it to you.
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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Hmmm...no more advice. I'm dying here, folks, need help badly to figure out my next step. Counseling first thing in the morning and really don't know how to handle it other than bring an axe. Well, we told you next steps, didn't we?  thanks, LD! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Wow, cannot imagine sending that letter! It would feel like...groveling. I agree with most of what is said but also feel like it makes me take the blame for what he did and lord knows he has blamed me enough already. It is just the first step. Untill he ends the affair, you cant go to step 2. Step 2 tells him what it will take to keep you.....get that? KEEP YOU AROUND. We also will not tell you to stay married but we will tell you to take awhile before you make that choice becuase emotions are to high right now to make a full life changing choice like that.
Me -BS 40
Him - FWH 34 (dtl)
3 D-Days from 12/25/10 to 01/06/11
NC - 01/09/11
02/20/12 done beating my head on that wall.
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Hmmm...no more advice. I'm dying here, folks, need help badly to figure out my next step. Counseling first thing in the morning and really don't know how to handle it other than bring an axe. May I ask why you are going to counseling? Do you have a long-standing counselor that you meet with for some reason?
D-Day 2-10-2009
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