http://www.cnn.com/2011/11/29/living/why-we-get-mad-at-our-husbands-p/index.html?hpt=li_bn3#

Okay, I know there are lazy women out there. And I know there are men who bust their butt every day to support their families. But, in my experience, this entire article was the norm for me and most of my female friends and relatives. I remember, being married, working full-time, having to be responsible for 90% of all housework, childcare, homework, rec activities, sports, dental and doctor appts, grocery shopping - etc., etc. The list can go on and on. I remember always being so tired and exhausted - I mean, just weary - then coming home and the house is a mess and the kids are a mess and everyone wants dinner - and my (now ex) husband sleeping or watching TV. I wonder if a lot of women seemed to feel as I did "I might as well divorce since I'm doing it all alone anyway."

Thoughts?

I didn't even read half of the "article." All I have to say is that these women could use Marriage Builders to make their marriages GRAND.

Instead of complaining to their girlfriends, they could institute POJA into their marriage and see GRAND results. They would BOTH be much happier and fulfilled in their marriages.

I CRINGED when I read that she said that her husband was the person she trusted most. RIPE for affairs, that marriage is.

When they teach parenting and marriage classes, MB should be the material they should use.

I did manage to get through it, as well as the article that accompanied it. The thing that annoys me about articles like this is that it's such an easy topic for a writer to get on the bandwagon with "Hmmm...what to write about this week...oh, I know! I haven't done a husband-bashing article for a few months, and, since most of my readers are working women with kids, those articles always go over really well!"

That said, the second article does take a stab at POJA. But I do get weary of reading that "Kathy in New York" says she's tired of being the sole keeper of the house and kids. It makes me think "Are you all STILL struggling with that and whining about it, when there's such an easy way to eliminate it??"

Somewhere Dr. Harley has a long article with an 8-part email series with a woman about her lazy husband who would not take out the garbage. I think I read it once a long time ago, but I can no longer find it. Does anyone have a link?

Is this what you're remembering? There are several letters in this series.
Dividing Domestic Responsibilities

I wonder why the wife who "screams at everyone" doesn't get any enthusiastic help?

That poor, poor woman...

Because some times, no matter what, you married a lazy husband and no amount of MB will change that. People change if they want to change. IF. I'm actually better off and do not regret my divorce. If I had to do it all over again I would never have married my spouse. Ever. Fortunately, I am older and wiser and know the red flags when I see them.

More often than not, it's the "tired and feeling justified with her anger" wife who shoots herself in the foot with her demands and disrespect.

MB CAN change the "lazy husband" (that's a DJ, btw). Men tend to be very attracted to MB. But what man would be motivated when his wife is demanding he help out and degrading him with disrespect?

My WH, when he was home, spent A LOT of time on the computer. Our house started to suffer greatly with repairs not being done, and I was overtaxed with doing all of the household chores by myself. I routinely came home from a long hard day at work, on my feet all day on a Sunday(while my WH was home doing NOTHING but playing his RPG), I would need to then make dinner. I even remember coming home from work early because I was sick, and I fell asleep on the couch. My WH woke me up at 530 and asked me what I was making for dinner. I had to hold back from beating him senseless.

Did I marry a lazy man? I can GUARANTEE that I did NOT. He sure wasn't like that BEFORE the children came along. We shared all the household duties. And now, whenever he has the boys, he is the one cooking for them, doing their laundry and he even started baking. He only ever baked one thing in this house, and that was while I was in Plan A.

I can see how MB with the POJA would have helped us TREMENDOUSLY. No amount of complaining and commiserating with my friends was EVER going to fix my marriage. It sure felt good to laugh and know that I wasn't alone. But, I wasn't happy. I believe that MB could help ANY marriage.

MB ROCKS.