Open to good feedback. Married in 2004 to my husband 14 years older than me. we seperated for 6 months in 2007/reconsilded at year end. We seperated again in 2008 now past 3 years. I do not want a divorce but I cannot get him to KEEP his word on most of what he says he agrees to do. He will not go to counseling (which we need in order to understand our relationship dynamic). I must admit that his financial help is sorely needed in order for me to keep my head above water. He still pays 2 bills even though we are seperated (phone & car insurance- he is on both plans) which is why I assume he ispaying them. He has been asked to leave his relatives house and wants to come home. I KNOW that he is not ready to come home because nothing has changed. How do I hold onto my husband who is angry and not changed and ready to return fulltime to our marriage?

I want to move back to my bedroom but that will be a big blow up plus my daughter still sleeping in this bed will want her to sleep their and she will give me a hard time i just know it yeah it sucks and unfair i have felt this pain now for almost a year,it hurts alot!

She will just move into the other room if i move back to my bedroom i know her royal !#% sometimes.