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I am stuck in house with WS who will not leave and she will not stop seeing boyfriend. I have two young daughters and I am not leaving my home. If talked to my lawyer and there is no legal way to get her out of the home. Any ideas???? I can't beleive that this woman that I once called my wife is putting her family through this.
I think I am going to clear out a space in the garage and start moving her stuff into that space. Maybe she will understand I am serious about her leaving....
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I am stuck in house with WS who will not leave and she will not stop seeing boyfriend. I have two young daughters and I am not leaving my home. If talked to my lawyer and there is no legal way to get her out of the home. Any ideas???? I can't beleive that this woman that I once called my wife is putting her family through this. Tell your lawyer to FIGURE IT OUT. Or find another lawyer. Yes he can get her to leave by negotiating an agreement. Most lawyers are lazy and will only do the least possible. So tell him to get to work on that. Have you filed for divorce yet? That is one way to get this rolling. Filing for divorce is the best way to get this rolling because you are legally protected. You can go into Plan B and then drop the divorce if she meets your conditions. Most WS's will leave if you continually ask them to leave and make affair life as difficult as possible. Talking about the affair OFTEN, exposing contact, confronting the OM EVERY TIME he sees your wife, are all ways to motivate her to leave.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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In this state the only legal way is to petition court for custody and claim the home is needed for the children. Adultery is not considered when granting custody. The only way to get a divorce in this state is to be physically separated for one year.
Mel, I am following your other advice. I followed her to work most days last week and showed up at the office three days for lunch. Trying to be as disruptive as possible. Carrying a camera too.
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In this state the only legal way is to petition court for custody and claim the home is needed for the children. Adultery is not considered when granting custody. The only way to get a divorce in this state is to be physically separated for one year. Great! That is where I would start. Have him petition the court for custody and file for divorce. In the year you are waiting for the divorce to be final, you could go into Plan B. In that time, if she meets your conditions, you could drop the divorce. But tell your attorney to get her out and get the divorce started. Mel, I am following your other advice. I followed her to work most days last week and showed up at he office three days for lunch. Trying to be a disruptive as possible. Carrying a camera too. Good deal! Any news on the exposure to the in-laws? What did your PI come up with?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The only way to get a divorce in this state is to be physically separated for one year. Many states have 'grounds' for divorce that allow the petitioner to significantly shorten the waiting/separation period. Things like adultery, abuse, cruelty, prison, and substance abuse are usable as grounds. Does your state have these provisions? Do you live in an AOA (alienation of affection) state? That would be a great way to put pressure on OM. Agree with ML. If your lawyer won't fight for your interests, fire them and get another.
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What should we do about Christmas? Should we spend it together or not? We usually do Christmas eve at my parents house and Christmas morning at her parents house. I'm embarassed to be around her. I'm thinking we should just do our own thing and split the time with the kids. She thinks we are going to be friends after this and share holidays together. What a joke.....
I exposed her parents several weeks ago. At first her mother was sympathetic but last time I talked to her things had changed. She said I should have seen it coming. What a joke....
I sent exposure letters to his family last week. Should be getting feedback soon. Will give them something to talk about over Christmas.
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What should we do about Christmas? Should we spend it together or not? We usually do Christmas eve at my parents house and Christmas morning at her parents house. I'm embarassed to be around her. I'm thinking we should just do our own thing and split the time with the kids. She thinks we are going to be friends after this and share holidays together. What a joke..... I would make this a warm and memorable Christmas. That is an advantage you have over the OM, so I would play it up big! You can beat him hands down on this account. This will be a perfect time to do a great Plan A. I would also let her know that you won't be spending Christmas with her if you are divorced. Let her know very clearly that you won't be her "friend" if this goes to divorce.
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I sent exposure letters to his family last week. Should be getting feedback soon. Will give them something to talk about over Christmas. 
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