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Thank-you for the update and inspiration Scotland.
I am glad you are able to explain the reasons for your not entering Plan D. I don't feel in any way that you need to justify yourself though. I don't think this is your intention either. You are showing your giver, because reading this will helps other posters in making their own decision.
Reading about your journey, and with this update, I have to think about what Bampot is missing out on. I believe should Bampot ever come crawling back full of remorse, YOU would have the strength, grace and wisdom to give 100% to recovery should you decide to. Bampot would have his work cut out for him to meet your bar for recovery and to become the man worthy of you.
I am glad that regardless of Bampots actions, your life is blessed. Your children, heartbreaking as it is to hear the effect of Bampot's actions on them, are blessed to have you. Too many betrayed spouses (often without MB) do not thrive, and do not become the role model so desperately needed when the wayward crosses to the dark side. You should be proud.
So how is that $300 going to be used?
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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So how is that $300 going to be used? First, we are going to use at least $30 to purchase toys to donate to Salvation Army(I was the recipient of a doll from them when I was a child, which my mother kept, and I now have in my China cabinet as a reminder of the charity and goodwill of others)so they may be passed onto those less fortunate than ourselves. We will be heading out into the wilderness of retail shopping the last Sunday before Christmas, so the boys can choose what to buy. Then, there are some things that the boys needed, and I wasn't certain I could buy until after Christmas. The money will help ease the burden, and make Christmas that much easier to handle financially. It is a a true blessing. I am grateful for it.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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First, we are going to use at least $30 to purchase toys to donate to Salvation Army(I was the recipient of a doll from them when I was a child, which my mother kept, and I now have in my China cabinet as a reminder of the charity and goodwill of others)so they may be passed onto those less fortunate than ourselves. We will be heading out into the wilderness of retail shopping the last Sunday before Christmas, so the boys can choose what to buy. The true spirit of Christmas, a really lovely gift for the boys and the recipient. I have been trying to show my nephew a different side to the cosumerism of Christmas, last fortnight we spent a Saturday morning decorating biscuits to give to his dad as a gift. An eye opener for a kid reared on every item being bought from a shop with transformers or ben 10 badges on it.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Tomorrow is the actual day, but with birthday celebrations, shopping, etc, I dunno how much I will be on tomorrow. Scotland, I remain impressed by you daily.
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D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Ok Scotty rocks, you got me with that story about the salvation army and the doll, dang you foriegners
Grats on the two year mark, and your growth and depth, it's yours and nobody can take it away, ha I'd like to see them try
I understand about not getting into a relationship while you have young children, heck my youngest is 20 and I still want to keep myself available to my children, as I will allways be thier father
They are all independent work and live apart but, daddy still worries about them
Being married more of my 54 years than single, and how things worked out, there is no romance left anyway lol
Rather have friends and a sense of humor anyways,no drama, nothing to prove, and for Gods sake, no more KISA activities
Still miss having a passion though, but just not willing or able to put myself out there, not for a person, and that's just ok with me
One day at a time, and having a good expectation, based in reality
Real is great
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Happy birthday, sweetie! Truly, there's no rush for anything. As long as it's working, why mess with it? Money in, wayward out... 
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Scotty, I have never posted to you, but I want to tell you that I read your thread and am awed by your strength and decency. You are thinking very clearly about how to best live your life well for the sake of your boys and your own conscience.
It's marvelous and moving that your church recognizes this.
All I can say is "Wow!" and "Well done."
Married 1980
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Scotland, your strength, dignity and courage are an inspiration to me, at a time where I really need it.
I wish you and your boys a wonderful Christmas.
Me, BS, 35
J, WS, 33
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No kids, just cats
D-day 06/30/11
In Plan B
"If you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain."
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BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Happy birthday, sweetie! Truly, there's no rush for anything. As long as it's working, why mess with it? Money in, wayward out... Thank you
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Happy birthday
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Me BW (37)
WH (37)
DD1 6 yrs DD2 2 yr
A man who abandons his wife and children because of his infidelity is no price. I can do better then that, I deserve better then that.
The difficulties and struggles of today are but the price we must pay for the accomplishments and victories of tomorrow
Men must be honest with themselves before they can be honest with others. A man who is not honest with himself presents a hopeless case
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 Scotty!
Aka S2
I know what's next. I filed for D. Original betrayal and two FR's in one year. I'm done.
A sure way to lose happiness, I found, is to want it at the expense of everything else.
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Happy BDay Scotty
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Happy Birthday Scotty!! Never have posted to you before but wanted to now.
It took me a while (okay, a LONG while..LOL) to read about your "adventure", and you have earned my upmost respect for your strength through all of this. You are obviously one incredible creature of God and I wish you all the happiness you truly deserve. It WILL come your way one day soon.
Someday, someone will hit the jackpot with you as the prize! I truly envy this man.
Happy Bday again, and Happy Holidays as well!
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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Happy birthday Thank you.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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