Ya' know, it never fails. I write an update, and then shortly after(like that day or the next) something happens that I want to tell you guys.

So, last Saturday, it was my DS9's Bday. It was supposed to be Bampot's weekend to have the boys, so I sent a message through my IM, in early December saying that they wouldn't be available. I did this with my birthday too, and received no response, so when I received no response from my IM, I assumed that it was the same as my birthday.

On Friday night, the boys wanted to stay up late watching Robin Hood on Netflix(it's REALLY good, it's the BBC Tv show from 2007). Then, as per DS9's wished, they wanted a sleepover in my room. I said, "Sure." We slept in later than usual.

At pick-up time, Bampot showed up. He began knocking on the door. I told the boys to stay upstairs, in their room, and I stayed in my room. Bampot didn't leave for over an hour. He knocked on the front door. He knocked on the side window. He knocked on the backdoor. He even threw snowballs at the boys' window. The phone is downstairs, but we could hear is ringing, and ringing. He actually drove away twice, but came back.

I didn't know what to do. I just stayed in my room watching TV, while the boys played video games in theirs.

After Bampot left, I came downstairs. He left 3 messages on the answering machine(which I DELETED without listening to), and he had called 26 times(I did count it, although I probably shouldn't have, but I wanted to document it).

A couple of hours later, DS11 and I were downstairs. Bampot called again, and DS11 talked to him. Apparently, Bampot had feared something had happened to the boys, and that's why he called so many times.

I am not certain that the IM passed along the message about the boys being unavailable, or if Bampot was just being stubborn about it. It really isn't much of a concern for me either way. I just thought I would put it here, as a way to keep my thread as up to date as possible.

Did you contact the IM to find out what happened? Hopefully they did pass the message along. I can only imagine how you must have been feeling while he was knocking, calling and throwing snowballs at the window.

It sounds like it didn't phase the boys which is interesting. I hope DS9 had a good birthday.

Well played! I am just shaking my head at the dingleberry. I mean really, if he was THAT worried he would have been home long ago.

Way to go in staying dark. I would've expected nothing less.

I am torn, because I don't want to know if he just chose to be stubborn, I think it is better this way.

There shouldn't be anymore changes for a long while, so I weighed my knowing with not, and decided this was better for my personal recovery. Thanx for making me think about it though.

Good girl!

They have had my Plan B prep talks for 2 years, they know how to handle Bampot knocking when he isn't supposed to be here.

DS9 had a WONDERFUL birthday, as we did our new tradition of IHOP. He LOVES that place.

Scotland,

Wow... You are AMAZING! I read through the first 60+ pages of your journey this morning and I am (almost) speechless. By the time you got to your birthday in '09 I had tears rolling down my face. I just wanted to give you a huge hug.

In some ways I don't think I have much right to comment on other people's posts who have clearly had their lives turned upside down by their WS. My heart just went out to you and your boys. I wanted to tell you that, and also that you have my respect and admiration... You have amazing strength!

Thank you Goldilocks. Virtual hugs are always welcome.

It's been a long tough journey, and it ain't over yet.

I'm looking forward to whatever else life has in store for me. Whatever it is, I can handle it, and I am NOT alone.

No, you aren't alone- you are very blessed with all the support and friends you have here!

Yup, Scotty ROCKS!

He threw SNOW BALLS at the boys' windows?!?!?!? Um, maturity seems to be lacking....

And did he miss the part about you going DARK?!? Hello, why don't you call the IM if you're worried to check and see if something had happened!!!! WW's.... sigh...

Anyways, you have got some awesome boys there! And happy belated birthday Scotty's DS9!

Ooooh I love IHOP. Why they dont open one in the UK, I dont know...!

As for the snowball malarky - thats just a typical wayward gone insane.

It'll be interesting to see what your IM says.

Indie, I'm not asking my IM. I don't really want to know.

CD, nice to see ya hun. I hope everything's going well with you and yours.

Yea, I pretty much said that if he wanted to make sure we were safe, he could have called my mom. She lives 12 blocks away and the phone number is the same as when I lived there, and it's in the phone book. It was probably just a typical wayward reaction to not having things the way he expected. eh whatever.

I'm kinda over it now.

Plan B Scotty style ..... NO DRAMA MAMA !!!

Yeppers. It feels so right this way. I think that's one reason I get frustrated with people who won't enter Plan B, I KNOW how much better their lives could be without the drama.

They, too, can be a rock star!

Amen

I know, I know....the time will come. I haven't met Dr Harley's timeline yet.

These two lines grabbed me Scotty. The quotes of a true Plan B ROCKSTAR!!!

Ahhahahhahaha! just when I think Ive got Plan B all wrapped up in my philosophy the master shows us all how it is done!