Just wanted to let you all know that "perfect" Innerstrength has a girlfriend and our divorce is NOT final. Therefore...I believe...that that would put him in the same "adulterer" class as me. People really should not say that they are NEVER going to do something. It generally comes back to bite them in the buns.

And if he comes here to talk with us about this, we'll be working with him.

What was your point in this tattling exercise?

OK, how does this change what you have to do to have a better marriage?

What are you going to do now? Remember, you only control your actions, not his.

What is your plan?

What am I going to do with what?? What better marriage?

This is Marriage Builders, so what does your post do to build a better marriage? It's really a simple question.

I was just updating you on the latest as most of the other posters do throughout their marriage/recovery/divorce/dating process.

This one flunks the smell test. Most posters update on how they are doing.

Your post was mean-spirited and was intended to poke IS and Marriage Builders members in the eye, IMO.

I am saddened to read you are still pointing fingers rather than taking your own inventory.

The " " is especially revealing of your character.

How does this post show your growth as a person?

Please stop. That's not what you were doing and we all know it.

You don't agree with MB philosphies, you have been incredibly rude to so many posters who were willing to try to help you...so I have no idea why the heck you would continue posting here.

For the record, you are embarassing yourself.

No actually I think HE is embarrassing for all that he posted on here and how we proposed to be such a righteous individual continually talking smack about my actions when in all actuality he is doing the exact same thing I was. Just funny to me. I knew that you all would have a way to justify it though. You haven't disappointed.

Like I said, it was clear that was not what you were doing.




Is becoming honest and having integrity part of this recovery?

People are responding to your apparent glee that IS has failed. You're so excited that you nearly tripped over your own feet getting over here to tattle.

No one here condones dating while married. And IS will be held accountable for that. But your glee is sickening. You STILL don't get it.

How does his girlfriend excuse your behavior? What number OM are you on now?

Who justified it, exactly?

He's wrong to do this.

You are also wrong.

Did you miss this, strugglingaz?

You don't seem to be here trying to get support as you work through a painful divorce. You're here to gloat about how your STBXH has failed, too.

You find his failure and his weakness "funny"?

Pathetic.

Is your reading comprehension impaired?

Of course I am pathetic, of course I don't get it, of course I am not trying to get support and the list goes on and on. Perfect, I am great with that. Bye bye for now.

Let us know when you get tired of wearing those 'victim' shoes.

Bye

This will sound as a blame shift and I don't remember your BH screen name or story, but you could of not been doing what he needed. The both of you have not learnt what boundaries are. You did not verify that he was maintaining safe boundaries post dday.

Recovery is a two way street.

Unfourtunately many a BS post dday for whatever reason they justify their need for a RA.

However warped logic, no matter how they work it will never justify a RA.

Instead of you fighting to get needs met you made the decision to have an A with an OM. You brought your marrige down a bad road. Neither one of you have put it in reverse or made a left or right turn to get off of WW road. Just took the fork onto WH road.

Marriage won't steer on it's own. The steering wheel has to be grabbed.

In the imortal words of the Great Mexican General: Manual Labor: grabbed is also known as: Doing Work.




Instead some spouses just do OP's.