Hi,

I have been trying to contact the MOW's BS to inform him of the EA affair that took place between his wife and my husband. I am running into issues because the guy is on lockdown!

I've searched the obvious social networking sites. I was able to find MOW and search her friends list but couldn't find him. I was able to find him on linked in, but his security settings are set to where he cannot be contacted without knowing his email address.

I was able to come accross their address on spokeo today. The thought of sending a certified letter had crossed my mind, although I have found that he is currently out of the country on business and has been for a few months, which was also verified through posts I saw on MOW wall on her social networking site.

I do know where he works, and considered calling there to see if they can give me an Email address, but I didn't want to be innapropriate.

Can anyone give me any futher tips on a way to find a cell phone number? I understand exposure is very important and I don't want this poor man not knowing.

Thank you.

CH611, I would asked this ? on your original thread. Lots more traffic there, and the MB warriors will be able to help you with everything you need. They'll link you to pertinent threads on different forums as needed.

And stick to one thread so everyone doesn't have to search for bits and pieces of info about your situation in multiple threads. No matter how far your thread falls down the board it will be bumped back to the top with every new post, yours or someone elses.

Get ready to get WOWed by all the help you're getting ready to receive, and listen to (and do) exactly what they tell you, no matter how unpleasant it may seem at the time. Everyone that is here has "been there, done that", so they know what works and doesn't work.

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That might work. I would try calling and telling them you are trying to contact Joe Blow and have lost his email address. Can they please provide it? If they won't do that, then ask them to convey an urgent message to him asking him to call you or email you. Tell them this is a serious personal matter involving his wife and you need to talk to him. Give them your full name and cell phone #.

Also, go on the company website and look at the company email addresses. You might be able to guess his email address by looking at other employee email addresses. For example, if you see the CEO's email address is Bob.Smith@shell.com you can try the same thing with his name and see if it works.

If that does not work, go back to his wife's facebook page and see if you can find anyone with the BH's last name. See if you can find his brother or sister or mother. Send them a message about the affair and ask them to contact the BH and have him email or call you.

Also, try joining LinkedIn yourself just to send a message to him. You can deactivate your account if you don't want to keep it afterwards.

Just call him, then. Tell him who you are and ask if he can talk. If he cannot talk, then ask him if he can listen. Tell him what you need to tell him and then give him your contact info so he can call you back when more convenient.