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My wife is having an affair with a co-worker. I know his name, phone number, and where he lives. Her parents are aware, but are staying out of it.( She is living with them with our 2 children) Does anyone know how to gain his family information and religious information. He's Jewish and I would love to get the name of his Rabbi? Thanks for any help. I would love to expose him to his family
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Have you looked for his social network site? if he has a Facebook page you can often work out the family members on his friends list. Start with the people who have the same surname.
Are you aware that he actually has a Rabbi? Does he practice his faith?
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Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Welcome to MarriageBuilders, kb1. Sorry you've had occasion to come here, but there's good advice to be found if you stick around.
If you want to find out more about the other man, you could consider hiring a private investigator. I'm not sure a mystery-rabbi is your richest exposure target. Do you even know whether the guy is observant?
For ID'ing his parents, there's lots of family-connection info available on sites like PeopleSearch.
What about their common employer? Have you sent exposure letters to their supervisors & cc'd to the company's general counsel, calling their attention to the likely misuse of company time/resources, plus the risk to the company of legal liability for sexual harassment and/or and/or favoritism and/or hostile work environment to which the affair is exposing the company? This sort of exposure is likely to put some stress on the affair.
Have you checked out MelodyLane's "Exposure 101" link? http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2566583#Post2566583
Dude, what are you doing to get your kids back? If her parents are baby-sitting so that she has free time to pursue her affair, then they sure as hell aren't staying out of it, they're actively abetting the affair. Go there while your wife is at work and take your kids back, and if your treacherous in-laws protest, remind them that they're your kids and tell them that you'll have the cops over there in 10 minutes if they need help remembering that. They're your children. You shouldn't be allowing your wife to expose your children to a sleazy affair-lifestyle; and any grandparents who are OK with such behaviour are no fit custodians for your kids.
Look: If you want to save your marriage, you need to bust up the affair; and if you want to bust up an affair, you need to make it a miserable, noisy, more-trouble-than-it's-worth pain in the heart for the affairees. Letting your wife spirit your kids to their spineless grandparents without any consequences is not going to get it done for ya.
Read up on exposure. Make their workplace hell for their affair. Fight for your kids. I'm not sure your odds are very good (how long has she been moved out?), but you need to be aggressive in busting up the affair to give yourself the best chance possible.
Hang in there, man.
Me: FWH, 50
My BW: Trust_Will_Come, 52, tall, beautiful & heart of gold
DD23, DS19
EA-then-PA Oct'08-Jan'09
Broke it off & confessed to BW (after OW's H found out) Jan.7 2009
Married 25 years & counting.
Grateful for forgiveness. Working to be a better husband.
"I wear the chain I forged in life... I made it link by link, and yard by yard" ~Jacob Marley's ghost, A Christmas Carol
"Do it again & you're out on your [bum]." ~My BW, Jan.7 2009
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I can't gain access to his pages. They are locked except to friends. I know he is VERY Jewish. My wife had told me before i knew of the affair. I want to contact him personally, but I know that won't work. I figure hitting him religiously would be very effective, especially if his family also practices
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kb, it's not necessary to start a new thread for each question. You can stick to a single thread.
It's much easier for readers to keep track of your situation & offer pertinent advice if your story is all in one place. This is better for you.
Please ask the moderators to merge this one with your original post.
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If you think he goes to synagogue, a Private Investigator can probably follow him around and tell you where.
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Thanks Gloveoil, They moved out about 3 weeks ago. I am allowed to see my kids whenever I want. She is not denying me, nor are her parents. I work nights and have no resources to watch them, so I know if I start trouble I will lose out on them if it comes to a legal issue. I love her so much and want to work it out, but her parents are enabling her. I can't afford a P.I. Can only do on my own. Tears are hitting the keyboard as I type. Ordered Surviving an Affair and it can't get here fast enough!
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Do you have anything you can sell?
Can your parents siblings help $$ ?
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My wife is having an affair with a co-worker. I know his name, phone number, and where he lives. Her parents are aware, but are staying out of it.( She is living with them with our 2 children) Does anyone know how to gain his family information and religious information. He's Jewish and I would love to get the name of his Rabbi? Thanks for any help. I would love to expose him to his family Unless you are in Israel, or in a really big city, there shouldn't be too many synagogues around you. It wouldn't be hard to go and tell the rabbi what's going on. You may need to got to a few and ask "is om a member here?" If so, I need to share something with you". CV
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