{ forgive me for posting this twice: wasn't sure the 'right' place to post it! if this is still not it, maybe one of the moderators can repost it for me correctly..? }

I was very active on this site for a long time as I walked through my husband's infidelity. The people here, Harley's information, and eventually counseling with Harley - was amazing. But even after doing all that could be done, WH chose to stay with OW. We were divorced in 2009.

I've continued my healing journey, slowly but steadily - and seen God do unbelievable things. So thankful that He is bigger than even this kind of tragic mess. One of those unbelievable things was falling in love again; with an amazing man, also a BH, also with 3 children. Almost exactly a year ago we were married, and began our own sort of new Brady Bunch.

As we've navigated the continued issues of divorce, remarriage, stepparenting and blended families, I felt really lead to start a blog about these things. I thought it might be beneficial to some people on this site, so I wanted to post it here.

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Thank you again, Steve Harley, Marriage Builders, and all the moderators for all you do. I have hope for my { new } family in part to you.

xo .. phoenix4

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Thank you so much for checking in. I have worried about you over the years. I will let sexymamabear know you are doing well.

phoenix, you got here around the same time as I did, and I followed your thread all the way through. That beautiful picture of you and your boys touched me and I had wondered over the years what happened to you.

THank you so much for the update

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hello ML + susie! i didn't know if anyone was still around that would remember me :-) yes yes, please do say hello to sexymamabear, is she still posting here?! how is she?

i was so blessed by this group, but so devastated after WH's final return only to go back to OW that i just had to check out of here for awhile and focus on the rebuild. he married OW, and they just had a baby together. my *new* DH's ex also stayed with her OM and they also have a baby together. talk about a crazy situation! there are all together 8 children in the mix (all age 10 and under!).

but seriously, God has been SO faithful. and DH and i just celebrated our one year anniversary this week. wow. he is truly amazing, and loves me well. it's also been a huge blessing to be able to share this kind of experience with someone who really gets it - but is also always moving toward more healing and forgiveness. and our children are ALL doing well - which again, is totally God's grace.

i SO wanted, and fought for, the happy ending here of a recovered marriage. but the truth is that in the end they are free to make choices, just as XWH did. i am SO thankful God really can work all things though for good! even if it sometimes takes awhile ... :-)

i saw my url was deleted - is it just against the rules to post urls? is there another way to make the site available to others here? there's no product or money-making avenue of it, it's really just to offer support and encouragement for people on similar journeys.

thanks for saying hi! and again, for *everything*

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Hi Phoenix - great update!

Maybe try a link to email the mods directly and ask what to do about the link. They can either figure it out, or explain why it won't work.

PHOENIX!!!! I am so happy to see your update!!

I have thought of you so often and wondered how you were doing. The last we talked you sounded like you were on the road to healing and a new beginning. I am thrilled to hear that you have found that.

I think my email has changed since we last were in contact. If you would notify the mods, they can exchange our emails again. I would love to see your blog.

HerPapaBear and I have added to our family as well--through adoption. I'll tell you more later.

God is good.

And no, I do not post here anymore.

There were a few different reasons I took a break, but once gone, I realized it was a HUGE trigger for me to read here.

Hubby still posts here some.

hi SMB! so happy to hear from you again. Congrats on the adoption - can't wait to hear details. and so happy that you and HerPapaBear are doing well!

i emailed Justuss, will email you as soon as i hear back! can't wait to catch up.