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I know I keep posting separate threads, sorry. My wife is having an affair with a co-worker. She moved out with the kids 3 weeks ago. she would not talk to me, but has now agreed to. I have exposure material ready to go on both her, her lover, and the place where they work. Just wondering if I should wait till after talking to her to proceed if needed, or drop the bombs and take the consequences of the fallout? I want to work it out, i love her and the children so much, but how much can a man take? Thanks for any help!
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Stick to 1 thread, you'll receive more responses and better help when all information is in 1 place.
Me BW (37)
WH (37)
DD1 6 yrs DD2 2 yr
A man who abandons his wife and children because of his infidelity is no price. I can do better then that, I deserve better then that.
The difficulties and struggles of today are but the price we must pay for the accomplishments and victories of tomorrow
Men must be honest with themselves before they can be honest with others. A man who is not honest with himself presents a hopeless case
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I know I keep posting separate threads, sorry. My wife is having an affair with a co-worker. She moved out with the kids 3 weeks ago. she would not talk to me, but has now agreed to. I have exposure material ready to go on both her, her lover, and the place where they work. Just wondering if I should wait till after talking to her to proceed if needed, or drop the bombs and take the consequences of the fallout? I want to work it out, i love her and the children so much, but how much can a man take? Thanks for any help! You should just expose the affair if you are intereseted in saving your marriage. There is nothing to talk to her about before exposure.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Just wondering if I should wait till after talking to her to proceed if needed, or drop the bombs and take the consequences of the fallout? Expose without any discussion. Expose all at once. Remain calm/focused/and at peace.
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Follow the exposure advice and read the Exposure 101 thread in MLs signature.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Stick to 1 thread, you'll receive more responses and better help when all information is in 1 place. I know I keep posting separate threads, sorry. My wife is having an affair with a co-worker. She moved out with the kids 3 weeks ago. she would not talk to me, but has now agreed to. I have exposure material ready to go on both her, her lover, and the place where they work. Just wondering if I should wait till after talking to her to proceed if needed, or drop the bombs and take the consequences of the fallout? I want to work it out, i love her and the children so much, but how much can a man take? Thanks for any help! You should just expose the affair if you are intereseted in saving your marriage. There is nothing to talk to her about before exposure. Just wondering if I should wait till after talking to her to proceed if needed, or drop the bombs and take the consequences of the fallout? Expose without any discussion. Expose all at once. Remain calm/focused/and at peace. that's it in a nut shell, expose, expose total and complete, now, before any talks.
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We are all in agreement..........expose without warning. Drop the bomb.
Me: WW41
Hubby: BH40...My Amazing forgiving man (CharpyTest)
DD: 8 DS: 8 DD: 6
EA/PA: 3 years
May 25, 2011 (Formal NC letter sent)
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