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I am always hopeful and giddy with excitement when waywards threaten to sue over exposure!! Just imagine the FUN of getting to prove your case in an open court!!  You would get to subpeona the infidels [both the WS and the OW] for all of their cell phone and email records!! If you get that threat, simply say PLEASE DO!!!  in truth, it is rare, rare, rare, because the last thing they want is their affair dragged through into the public arena. Quoted for truth. Threatening to sue? Heck yeah! Will they? Don't make me laugh. Expose, expose, expose, to the workplace. It worked for me!
Formerly ConfuzedHusband
BH
WW (Now XW)
Married 4 years, No children.
EA/PA from 2/2008 to 5/2008.
DDay: 5/17/2008 - Separated 6/1/2008 - Filed 8/3/2008
Divorce final 3/2009.
Now in a committed relationship with a woman of character who loves me so much better and deeper than I ever dreamed possible. I had no idea what I was missing out on and am so grateful God gave me a free "second chance" at love and life.
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Rain,
Time for the big explosion. There is a difference between slander and truth.
The company could get sued by OW if she claims sexual harrassment. You are doing the company a BIG favor.
Say nothing to either and just "do". Don't give them a long winded letter but just the plain facts with documentation. (Is it a company cell phone?)
Then do not accept phone calls from WH, be silent.
I know this is tough and you want to give up. Finish what you started and sit tight. It will be a wild ride.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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I n�eD major help, I have been married since 2009 and found out my husband is having an affair, since nov, he has told me he wants a divorce I have told his family friends and his work knows, what do I do to fix this and save my marriage. We have two small chrildren, someone please help me!
I just found out my husband has been having an affair since nov of 2010, we have two small children we still live together and he wants a divorce how do I stop this and save my marriage???? Help please!!!
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Hi ADScott, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this! It is a nightmare for sure, but you are in good hands here.
You can start a posting of your own so the experienced marrigage builders can help you out with lots of good advice and support!! Can anyone show ADScott how to do this? Can't remember how i figured it out...?
I'm hoping for the very best outcome for you!
Me BW - 34
WH - 28
Married 6yrs
No children
EA/PA with OW co-worker 32 - Dec 2009 to present
DDay - June 2010
Separated - June 2010
NC - 17 January 2011
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ADscott, please go start a new thread so folks can see your post.They won't be able to see it buried at the bottom of Rainbeau's thread.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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It's been almost a year since I've posted here...have been in Plan B this whole time!!!...I'm still living in our marital home with WH paying the mortgage and bills through auto debits from a bank account he transfers funds to monthly...haven't seen him at all in over 6 months (before I would occasionally see him as he would show up at our church, but he hasn't been there in months)... very sad to say the OW's fianc� left her for another woman in the summer and my WH has moved in with her!!!  (yes a real bunch of winners they all are!) Oddly my WH texted me a couple of times in October, one very random text "pls tell me what you pray for at night" and then a few days later "hey - just wondering how you're doing - i hope you're ok"...i never responded to either text as i knew he was still with the OW and I just didn't think he was sincere (as in time's past) nor did I want to be a part of their love triangle...then he stopped by the house when i wasn't home and left a tiny note on my garage door that i didn't see until a week later which said "i love you and i miss you Rainbeau - 06-dec-2011" ...I was wondering/hoping it was over with her and he might be coming around until i found out he went to Costa Rica with her over the holidays... I am getting tired of him jerking my heart around. Not sure I can take anymore...I used to feel I'd wait forever, now not so sure...I don' t know if he'll ever stop this horrendously destructive behavior I get REALLY, REALLY hurt every time I find out something new...is it time to pull the plug???
Me BW - 34
WH - 28
Married 6yrs
No children
EA/PA with OW co-worker 32 - Dec 2009 to present
DDay - June 2010
Separated - June 2010
NC - 17 January 2011
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Well, you're dealing with a 2-year affair, no children and a husband that (obviously) lacks the maturity to really care.
I think you've done well giving it a shot but that this should probably be coming to a conclusion fairly soon. If you have few regrets (in that you did what you could do), I'd file for a divorce.
He's not marriage material and it's best that you found out now before children were involved.
I know, that probably came out harsh. Do your family/friends say the same thing?
Me (BH)
FWW
Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2
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Northwood, Thank you for your response. Not harsh at all, just truthful which is appreciated!
Friends and family have been so supportive! Couldn't have asked for better! They have always reassured me that the decision is mine and they would support me whatever I decided to do, which means a lot to me as I took the time I needed to decide. They also cared about my WH and were very hurt by the choices he's made and hoped that he would change
I know in my heart what I need to do. For the first time it actually feels like the right decision. I am scared out of my mind but also feel a sense of relief...it's been really hard holding on to hope that never materialized in to any real change.
Thank you all again for your support and great advice. Take care and all the best!
Me BW - 34
WH - 28
Married 6yrs
No children
EA/PA with OW co-worker 32 - Dec 2009 to present
DDay - June 2010
Separated - June 2010
NC - 17 January 2011
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