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WHAT IS IT CALLED WHEN YOU ASK SOMEONE NOT TO DO SOMETHING AND THEY SAY OK THAN AS SOON AS YOUR BACK TURNS THEY CANT WAIT TO DO IT
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WHAT IS IT CALLED WHEN YOU ASK SOMEONE NOT TO DO SOMETHING AND THEY SAY OK THAN AS SOON AS YOUR BACK TURNS THEY CANT WAIT TO DO IT It's called adultery.
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WHAT IS IT CALLED WHEN YOU ASK SOMEONE NOT TO DO SOMETHING AND THEY SAY OK THAN AS SOON AS YOUR BACK TURNS THEY CANT WAIT TO DO IT ?
It's called adultery.
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Oral sex adultery? The Clinton defence? What are you talking (sorry - SHOUTING) about, tsg? Why don't you ask clearly about whatever it is you wish to discuss?
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THANKS I GALD YOU believe me,because it is true no matter what happens i will always love her she got mher house can do what she wants and shhe is safe
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THANKS I GALD YOU believe me,because it is true no matter what happens i will always love her she got mher house can do what she wants and shhe is safe tsg, please try to calm down and say what you need to say clearly. I am having difficulty understanding you.
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telling someone something between you and them a secret and ask them not to msay anything and time your back turned they telling everyone even people they dont know?
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TSG: try and take time to write what you are stating or asking. Your posts an impossible to comprehend.
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WHAT IS IT CALLED WHEN YOU ASK SOMEONE NOT TO DO SOMETHING AND THEY SAY OK THAN AS SOON AS YOUR BACK TURNS THEY CANT WAIT TO DO IT It's called adultery. 
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WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
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TSG I also believe you love 2s. I take this yes as to my question if you talked with Steve. Can you tell us how that went? If you press the quote button below it will put the writers post in a box like above. Then you can type what your response is below the box so they know what you are referring to. It helps us to understand you better. nESRE
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Hmmm, like what, TSG? Like an affair, addiction or something else that harms the very person you told or others?
"Secrets" told that harm others are not subject to confidentiality.
If my very own sister told me she stole a car, that's a secret, right? Nope. That's a confession of of crime. If my kid to me he'd cheated on a test, is that a secret to? Nope.
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tsg, I don't understand what you are saying as you are not being clear on it. But I think I know what you are implying... that a person is telling people something you want to remain hidden.
I am a big believer in the truth... in my experience helping people keep secrets mean you become an accomplice in their wrongdoing. And secrets usually mean there is wrong being done. Otherwise why bother do conceal it?
Could it be that your secret needs to be exposed for you to change your behaviour? Could this person be trying to help you?
Affairs are likened to addiction. Just as most people know not to help the alcoholic be a closet drinker, neither should people who love you help you hide your secrets.
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To all:
Don't get this thread locked. There must be no more references to moderator edits.
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telling someone something between you and them a secret and ask them not to msay anything and time your back turned they telling everyone even people they dont know? TSG Could you clear this up so we understand? nESRE
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question: what did harley say?
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I'm not even close to referencing whatever was edited...I didn't see it and am not interested, either.
What I am addressing is the difference between a fact that should be held in confidence between a husband and wife (for example), and a fact that should not.
Should examples:
-Sleep habits
-Intimacy preferences
-Private fears and quirks
-etc. This list could be 1000 items long.
Should not examples:
-Actions that can or will can cause harm to one's self and others
Period. List #1 can and should be very long. List #2 should be very short by definition.
TSG, I have no idea which you are referring to. Only you know. Since we're here on the SAA forum, I will say that an affair is on LIST # 2 as it does harm to yourself and others, and therefore not something the person learning of has any obligation to keep secret or in confidence.
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