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I wonder about this:
I play golf, but my wife does not. (though she did say she'd give it a try some time)
However, we both completely agree that it is ok for me to play golf, provided we agree on times and dates so it can be mutally planned around.
so I am wondering, is this an independent behavior since we both fully agree about how often, when, etc?
It seems that under the policy of enthusiastic agreement, it does not, since we both negotiate and fully agree on how it is to be done.
Thoughts?
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IB are those things you do that do not take into account your spouse's feelings. If she objected to your playing and you did it anyway, that would be IB. I will caution you to avoid enthusiastically agreeing to things that will harm your marriage. For instance, if you regularly plan boys golfing weekends away, and your wife is enthusiastic about that becase it gives her and the girls a chance to go stay downtown clubbing all night, that would be bad. 
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)
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