well just a note of my continuing soap opera of a life. to read my story look for me under Other topics. Last week we went to a meeting with our pastor .Husband set it up supposedly to help me adjust with the idea of divorce. Well I got there and H is there and pastor and an elder from our church. The pastor starts talking and its obvious that things arent going to go that way. the H had been out of town over the weekend at an Ala-non convention and somehow was there with the OW and people found out.( I guess her husband) The pastor said that the H was cheapening the grace of God. Also the OW had talked to several people and said that her and the H were moving in together. Well what a blow up. The pastor and elder said H was on church discipline along with OW. Yes she goes to our church. Ends up with H getting very depressed and talking of suicide. So they take him to the hospital. He stays three days and is discharged. When he gets out I am afraid to let him come back home. <BR>So we are now separated and I dont know where he is. Probably living with OW.<BR>Here is something else, prior to this meeting H wanted me to write OW a reconcilation letter. Isn't that amazing? He said for the sake of our son. What a mess. Only God can get me through all this. If anyone has any advice for me please respond.<BR>I am so confused.<P>------------------<BR>joanne<BR>

joanne--<P>Oh my! I'll be thinking about you, what an awful situation to be in!!<P>If you'd like to send H a note, maybe you could through your pastor??? <P>Keep posting. It really helps to write down your thoughts...it sure helps me. And try to stay as calm as you can.

I don't think you need any advice. This is his problem, not yours. What you need is courage and strength. Just be the person you want to be, treat people how you want to think of yourself as treating others, and suffer through this with all the grace you can muster. Good things will happen to you if you can do that, although it's very hard to say what form those good things will take at this time.<P>You won't be able to tell your husband what to think or do. All you can do is set an example by living as you want to live. After that, it's up to him. But even if he never appreciates it, your son will.<BR>