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Originally Posted by PainfulLesson
If he's in the military you need to let his CO know ASAP. Such behavior is frowned on heavily.

http://usmilitary.about.com/od/justicelawlegislation/a/adultery.htm
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AGREE! Adultery is against the law so he should be reported to his CO if he in active duty.


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We are married. Right now she feels completely justified in this. She says it surprised her and that she is "backing off" but refuses to end contact forever. Last contact was yesterday. She wont tell me what they talked about.


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Originally Posted by ascending
Since they had sex in Nov, their affair has been all on facebook. But she's in love and wants to see him again. Refuses to break it off for spiritual, existential reasons.

Well, I guess we know which "spirit" is behind ADULTERY! and it ain't the good ones! [Linked Image from forum.marriagebuilders.com]


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Originally Posted by ascending
We are married. Right now she feels completely justified in this. She says it surprised her and that she is "backing off" but refuses to end contact forever. Last contact was yesterday. She wont tell me what they talked about.

Does she have a worldview that makes her feel entitled to commit adultery? Does she know right from wrong?


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She may not know the difference between right and wrong but the state of Tennessee sure does. Not only is it a fault state but adultery is actually illegal there as well.

Alienation of Affection
Military exposure
No Fault State (oops, I mean Fault State)
Adultery Illegal
OM's FB friends list
Pissed off MIL

Man, you gotta lots weapons at your disposal to nuke this [censored]

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ascending, are you reading our posts about exposure? This needs to be reported to his commander and to his family and friends on facebook. Are you doing this?


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How do I get access to his commander?


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Originally Posted by ascending
How do I get access to his commander?

Did you get the list of his facebook contacts and copy and paste it into a word doc?

I have asked GJM to come here and tell you how to expose to the OM's commander. But in the meantime, I would start exposing to the OM's family and friends.


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Exposing to the OM's mother is ESSENTIAL because it will ruin the future of the affair if his family knows your wife is some married woman committing adultery. Most decent people won't allow an adulterer to darken their doorstep.


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Getting the FB list now.


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Originally Posted by ascending
How do I get access to his commander?


What branch of military is this guy? If you know the name of his unit, you can find the military web site to find the commander's name. If you know POSOMs name, you can drive to the base where he works and someone can point you in the right direction. There are ways to track him down, but we will need more information in order to do that.

I contacted my command and they were able to contact the OMs command. I'm a Marine though so I had the resources available to me. Whatever info you can find on OM will help me help you to expose him. If he's Army, I've see guys kicked out for adultery.

This is what you need:

OMs name, rank (very least)
OMs unit
I can help you find the rest.

Good luck.


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You might have to prove adultery. Get screenshots of the FB activities. Any emails, print and hide. Don't worry about him seeking revenge. When I was in the Navy I had someone threaten to come after me, he was all talk and no bark. Time in the brig changed his tune.

http://www.militaryconnection.com has a list of bases. You could see where your nearest base is and call the CO there.

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I have his name. I have photos from his FB showing him in uniform, presumably on his base. Looking those over now. How do I tell his rank?


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What's on his sleeve? http://www.military-quotes.com/ranks/army-rank-insignia.htm can help you ID them. Maybe GJM can take a look, too.

There is a locator service (http://www.defense.gov/faq/pis/pc04mltr.html) if google fails to dig something up. [edit: apparently the Army no longer offers this]

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Look on his sleeve and collar. You can describe it to me if you'd like and I'll tell you what it is. The web sites always have contact info for some officer in charge. If you can't narrow it down to the unit he's in, they will help point you where you need to go.


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Looks like he is a Staff Sargent, probably at FT Hood, which is right near Copperas Cove, where his FB says he lives.


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How do I find his unit #?


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http://www.hood.army.mil/paos.aspx?2 has info...any of those look familiar?

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Yes, looks like he's in the 1st Cavalry Division


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OK I've got to go now. Thanks for all your help!!!


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