Hello everyone...please offer advice as I am not sure if I am overreacting or being taken advantage of.
I have a very pretty wife and she enjoys the attention she gets from men..n facebook she is listed as single and chats with many men, even exchanging phone numbers with them.
She is from africa and tells me that she is very socialable like that...she even had playful email with a guy about how his father was supposed to pick a husband for her, she kept asking him who the lucky one was...they exchanged numbers, he told her about his brother then she reaches out to his brother.
She even has had men in the house when I was at work....
And up until recently she would stay on the phone for hours with other men and we would while we would hardly say two things to each other...I am taking care of her children, I've threatened to leave numerous times but chickend out concerne with the bills since everything is in my name.
Thank You

Sounds like she is a playah who is playing you.




Yes, you are being taken advantage of.

I like your quote about compassion...I beleive she knows this, I'm often furious with her because I know she is taking me for a foo, but when she turns on the smiles and the sex and the affection that I rarely get I sway to her until we have another incident ..and I have moments where I am a raging fool, and its scaring me...

uh, how old are both of you and how long have you been married?

She is playing you for a fool. And you are allowing it to happen. Have you been checked for STDs?

Look up the definition of "cuckold" and see if it reminds you of anything.

You need to get as far away from this woman as quickly as possible, before you end up losing every ounce of your self-respect (along with everything else).

^^Yep, this^^^

i read cuckold, man...that cant be me..but it is.man oh man what a mess....and the apt is in my name.......I want to leave, but my desire to do so is not that strong...wtf.....i know i sound like a fool, but I cant seem to break free from this..i keep trying to look for good in her.....

DNT,
Did you post here a few months back with a different user name?

We had another fella here with a similar situation.

I seem to recall this as well

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think you should re-read your post and think about what you wrote. I do think you are being taken advantage of.

nope not me ...although i'd like to speak with this guy have something in common...is he doing better ???

Not a clue. We asked him to lay down some hard stuff and he bailed off the site.

Your wife is addicted to affairs. She is probably a sex addict.

You say when she has sex with you it feels better.
Sometimes we can become very unhealthy from being in bad relationships.
We start to think that bizarre behavior is normal.
We make excuses for our loved ones bizarre bahaviors and try to present a clean image to outsiders (neighbors, friends, family).

Are you the child of an alcoholic?
I would not question your wifes behavior so much as questioning your own self: Why do you think this may be acceptable or normal?

Let me put it this way: if you stand in a room with 29 people, and ask them if this is normal, and they all stand up and point at you and say NO....then you must consider that you are not seeing things clearly.

I think she's more of a con artist, who is well-practiced in using men to get what she wants, and she knows that sex is a great tool for manipulation. She's likely working on her next partner even as we're discussing this.

Why are you considering leaving if the apartment and everything else is in your name?

Here's what you do: pack all her things up nicely and set them by the door. Tell her it's time for her to go.

YOU don't leave.

She's using you for babysitting services and throwing you an occasional sex bone so you'll stay compliant while she's out doing other men. Why would you have any desire to live like that?