Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 20 of 20 1 2 18 19 20
Joined: Jul 2011
Posts: 568
R
Member
Member
R Offline
Joined: Jul 2011
Posts: 568
Wow, I just read through some of your threat, BH. You've been a huge help on mine the last few days. You have such an inspiring story. Thank you for sharing. I never would have guessed you had come through so many trials. You have just seemed so strong and knowledgeable to me. (Which you are - I guess it's maybe because of everything you've been through).

Keep up the great work!


Married: 22 years
Me: BW 41
Him: WH 43
Sons: 19, 17, 12
Daughter: 16
DD 8/09
EA started 8/08
PA started 7/09
Brief recovery of a few months in there.
Separated 10/10
Legal Separation 8/11
Plan B 5/17/12
Plan D 5/31/12

My Story
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by rainysweet
Wow, I just read through some of your threat, BH. You've been a huge help on mine the last few days. You have such an inspiring story. Thank you for sharing. I never would have guessed you had come through so many trials. You have just seemed so strong and knowledgeable to me. (Which you are - I guess it's maybe because of everything you've been through).

Keep up the great work!


Thank you my friend.

I make it a priority to put all the MB principles in use daily.


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Joined: Mar 2010
Posts: 6,352
N
Member
Member
N Offline
Joined: Mar 2010
Posts: 6,352
BH, rather than usurp GJM's thread, I thought I'd post here my apology for grievously inverting and consequently misinterpreting your meaning in your note to him of last weekend.

I should have considered the source which would have rendered my erroneous impression all the more implausible, if not impossible.

I am very sorry.

Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
BH, rather than usurp GJM's thread, I thought I'd post here my apology for grievously inverting and consequently misinterpreting your meaning in your note to him of last weekend.

I should have considered the source which would have rendered my erroneous impression all the more implausible, if not impossible.

I am very sorry.
Thank you, my friend and apology accepted. smile

I was glad that you were "surprised" it came from me. That tells me that I'm learning MB principles.

I've learned a lot from you and for that I thank you.


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Joined: Jul 2010
Posts: 4,653
N
Member
Member
N Offline
Joined: Jul 2010
Posts: 4,653
Hey BrainHurts,

I've seen your name pop up on other threads and wanted to drop by.

You mentioned throwing a bag at your husband once and having to deal with the police afterward. What, dare I ask, was in the bag?

If it makes for a better story, you could always say that you had just taken the dog out for a walk...


Me (BH)
FWW
Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2

Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Hey BrainHurts,

I've seen your name pop up on other threads and wanted to drop by.

You mentioned throwing a bag at your husband once and having to deal with the police afterward. What, dare I ask, was in the bag?

If it makes for a better story, you could always say that you had just taken the dog out for a walk...

I wish I would've just took the dogs for a walk laugh
Hey Northwood.

Thanks for asking. It was a bag full of coins/change about 3 pounds worth. Yes they confiscated it for evidence and wouldn't give it back until we completed all of our court ordered counseling and anger managemnet. I was horrbile with my AO and DJs. I received the worse of the punishment because I was the offender. The cops also told me I could not kick him out and change the locks (I tried and the cops were called over) because his name was on the house. I was charged with DV. What was so ironic was I was the one who called the cops but because I threw the bag I was charged with the worse offense. By the law, they were supposed to take one of us (which would have been me) to jail but my husband asked them not to.

I have come along way.

Does this answer all your questions?


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Joined: Jul 2010
Posts: 4,653
N
Member
Member
N Offline
Joined: Jul 2010
Posts: 4,653
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
I was horrible with my AO and DJs.

Yeah, I have that t-shirt, too. Glad to hear that things worked out for you.

Take care, have a good weekend.


Me (BH)
FWW
Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2

Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by Northwood8900
Originally Posted by BrainHurts
I was horrible with my AO and DJs.

Yeah, I have that t-shirt, too. Glad to hear that things worked out for you.

Take care, have a good weekend.
Thanks, you too. smile


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Joined: Sep 2012
Posts: 1,650
D
Member
Member
D Offline
Joined: Sep 2012
Posts: 1,650
Wow BH didn't know you were a FWW. You have come a long way MB librarian! Thanks for your support.

Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by TranquilDark
Wow BH didn't know you were a FWW. You have come a long way MB librarian! Thanks for your support.
Yup, not a moment I'm proud about.

I find myself learning everyday.

You never noticed I have it my signature?


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Joined: Sep 2012
Posts: 1,650
D
Member
Member
D Offline
Joined: Sep 2012
Posts: 1,650
No I haven't lol. Been too busy clicking those links you send and reading.

Joined: Mar 2013
Posts: 105
I
Member
Member
I Offline
Joined: Mar 2013
Posts: 105
Hello BH,
I just stopped by to read some of your story. I really appreciate your encouragement on my thread. While I have a lot of support from my friends and family, I really love having a place to visit with people who have walked a similar path as mine and who understand what I am doing. Thanks again!!!


Me, 34 BW (although we made many bad choices that opened my marriage to this)
Him, 34 WH
Two sons 6 and 3
D-day 12/24/12 and many more in the 6 months after
Plan B, 7/10/13

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. John 16:33
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by Iwillbehappy
Hello BH,
I just stopped by to read some of your story. I really appreciate your encouragement on my thread. While I have a lot of support from my friends and family, I really love having a place to visit with people who have walked a similar path as mine and who understand what I am doing. Thanks again!!!
You're very welcome. This place Has been a wonderful support system for many of us.


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Joined: Oct 2010
Posts: 5,123
Likes: 1
H
Member
Member
H Offline
Joined: Oct 2010
Posts: 5,123
Likes: 1
Originally Posted by HoldHerHand
a responder with a good thread library

Somebody has developed the best thread library... and radio library to boot.

Oh, what a ride.


"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr

"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer

"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
B
Member
Member
B Offline
Joined: Nov 2010
Posts: 20,479
Likes: 6
Originally Posted by HoldHerHand
Originally Posted by HoldHerHand
a responder with a good thread library

Somebody has developed the best thread library... and radio library to boot.

Oh, what a ride.
smile

Yes, yes it has been a ride.


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



Page 20 of 20 1 2 18 19 20

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 335 guests, and 116 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
louischan, elongrimer, finnbentley, implementsheep, rafaelakutch
72,046 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Three Times A Charm
by still seeking - 08/09/25 01:31 PM
How important is it to get the whole story?
by still seeking - 07/24/25 01:29 AM
Annulment reconsideration help
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:05 PM
Help: I Don't Like Being Around My Wife
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:01 PM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,525
Members72,047
Most Online8,273
5 hours ago
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0