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Joined: Jun 2004
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My husband and I have been separated before. My daughter was 7 and I was pregnant with our second child. We were separated for almost a year and he dated a couple of other people. One he was dating before we separated and he basically left me for her I after I dug and found out about it. His job keeps him away from home a lot and that makes it easy to grow apart and it is happening again. It is difficult when he is 6 hours away and I work. I have already decided to turn in my 2 week resignation so I can devote more time to my family. I pray to God that this does not happen again. God wants our family to be together and God hates divorce. I do not want to put our children through this again. I hope the 40 Day Love Dare can bring us back together. I will not dig this time, though I have very strong suspicions. I don't know what to do. If he is with someone down there, I feel like it may be extremely difficult to win him back. He is already shutting me out. We only communicate through text messages and he shuts his phone off most of the time. Im pretty sure he has another phone. If I push, he will pull further back but I am at such a disadvantage. I have not eaten or slept in a week and a half since my suspicions began. I will be going to a doctor to find out about meds for my anxiety. This is taking a major physical towl on me. I cant tell my family or friends because they would automatically tell me to leave him. If there are any suggestions, let me know.
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trn, if you want to save your marriage, you need to be doing alot of digging. Ignoring problems will not save a marriage.
The biggest issue is that you don't live together. What is being done to rectify that?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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He can't quit his job. He lives here but just works a lot and spends most of his time somewhere else. Last time I dug and found out everything and, when it came to a head, he chose her. Because she is the girlfriend and she is new and exciting. I do not think digging will do any good. I am quitting my job so I can spend more time with him by traveling to where he is.
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