WWN, keep that chin up! I really admire your dogged determination, and it gives me hope for my situation. Even if your WH decides to be alone, be there for him as best you can. Once you cut the OW out of the picture, and he is any sort of man, he will come to his senses. Remember, the best things in life are worth fighting for. As a soldier, I can apply that mantra to anything, be it combat, love, anything. Keep your chin up, and as we like to say CHARLIE MIKE!!!!

Thanks for the reminder, I couldn't remember if he had moved out or not. Please don't worry. Your marriage is closer to recovery TODAY than it was yesterday because you exposed this affair. The more harm you inflict on the affair, the greater the chances your marriage will recover.

This is why I am so adamant that you get in contact with the OW's H. That will likely be the death knell of the affair.

So, do nothing other than expose the affair to the OW's H and then sit back and watch the affair die...

Another update, the OW had rang my WH today, it would seem that she's either split with her husband or is telling him about the exposure.

Ride it OUT!!!!! How has your WH reacted? Like I said, WWN, stick to your guns and dont give up!

No reaction yet but he may not bother if her relationship has broken down over it all.

Like I said, stick to your guns and dont give up. Though at times I have felt my wife hated me for what I did, I never gave up being there for her, and I hope that even after the dastardly thing I did, she calls, I will come running. He will come back, I can feel it.

Her relationship *IS* broken down, WWN. She is having an affair with a married man!!

Now, stay on this and expose to the OWH! Don't let up, girl.

What Do you think is the best way to reach OWH?

I'm struggling to reach the OWH, just driven to the house again and only her car is there, I'm wondering if her husband has actually left her. I expected to see my WH's car there after he'd had a 12 minute conversation with her (she called him again) earlier but no sign.

I've also checked her husbands facebook, I'm not missing another opportunity if he puts that he's at a pub just down the road again.

I'm now thinking the conversation earlier could have been her informing my WH about the exposure as there was no contact yesterday, with any luck she'll hold him responsible and it's ended their affair totally.

Monty172 I truly hope that you are right and he will come back but our daughter seems to think he's gone for good and with her being so much like him personality wise I think she could be right.

In that case I would consider checking out the pub. He must have friends there if that's where he went in his hour of need. If he's in the pool team or darts team, or just drops by now and again, he will be easy to find. Just ask a barmaid (if she asks just say you need to get a message to him in person, but she won't) when you are likeliest to catch him. Or if he has an unusual name try to find parents or siblings on 192.com under people finder

I've already done the 192.com thing, that's how I found her brothers, mother in law and her the first time around. I must have spent the best part of �100 tracking everyone down.

Her husband doesn't appear to go to any one pub at regular intervals, there are a few listed on his facebook and pub crawling is not my scene but I will try to be patient and keep an eye on his facebook and spot an opportunity. When I'm sure she's at work I have the telephone number of the house, at least that's what I think it is.

There is still no activity on the phone and it's now been 4 hours since their call. I'll keep checking until I go to bed because even when they've spoken previously and she's told him she's not interested he usually sends her a soppy text message saying things like 'I know I've messed up, I'm such a fool'

OK, new day, still no activity on his phone, it looks like the telephone call last night could well have been the bomb dropping. I've sent him a text this morning telling him how I feel and asking him to contact the children, our son has his mock GCSE's all this coming week and I thought it might me nice for his Dad to wish him luck. No response yet, two hours after I sent it.

I can only assume that he's really mad with me right now and also hurting because his OW has shouted at him. Maybe now he'll see what he threw 24 years down the toilet for. She is a manipulating man hunter.

You'll get better info from OWH and its only a matter of time before he is around again.

Is is possible WH knows you are watching and has gotten himslef an affair phone? However if OWH has attacked him and come down hard on her that might explain the silence, when you find him you will know

No he won't have another phone because she rang the one I am watching last night and she has been texting it up until a few days ago, her brother has rang my WH on the same phone this morning and WH's own sister was texting him on it yesterday. I know he's using it because I text him this morning too and my text appeared on the app.

I also have to consider that this is a new phone and he couldn't afford to buy another one at the moment, his salary is not a big one and he has other commitments to consider, his car insurance is very expensive due to him writing off his sports car a couple of years ago. Said sports car was, in my opinion, his mid life crisis, how wrong was I?

OK, tried to contact OWH again a couple of times, he wasn't ever at the house because it would appear that he's left her. There has been no communication between OW and WH since 18th when she rang him, I believe that this was when her husband left, she must have rang my WH to shout at him because of the exposure. My WH has had no contact with me since this has happened.

This morning I logged onto my facebook and noticed that my WH has reactivated his account, he hasn't used facebook for about 10 months before today, his marital status still says that he's married to me and his profile picture is still one of us together!

I'm more confused than ever at the moment, what is going through his head now????

Why hasn't he contacted me to rant about exposure?

I would continue until you do find him. I wouldn't assume he has left. How do you know he is not at the house? Are you knocking on the door and asking for him?

What about sending a PM to his family members on facebook and asking his brother, sister or mother to call you?

Already sent PM on Facebook, no response from anyone. I know he's left because OW commented on his facebook asking him to come home.

I don't think he wants to talk to me, I do understand this, he probably fears what I have to tell him as I obviously know more about it than he does. I know about the necklace my WH purchased for her, what dates she was alone with WH at her brothers flat etc. He's male and probably burying his head in the sand.

It's my WH I'm now concentrating on, why would he not change his facebook status or profile picture if he wants out of this relationship? I text him yesterday about the mortgage, he'd had an email asking for documentation and I text him to tell him that I'd sorted it. He ignored me..I text his sister and she text back saying 'I'm sure it will all be ok eventually xx'

I just don't know what to think and as I've previously said I'm not very patient.

In that case, I would focus on reaching him via his family members. IT is real important that you reach him and give him the evidence of the affair. I see you making alot of very arbitrary assumptions and that can be a deadly mistake when you are dealing with affairs. You have to remember that waywards are master decievers and it is very likely the OW intercepted your message. Don't stop until you reach him personally. This could be the very thing that saves your marriage, so I would not give up until you personally speak to the OW's husband.

He's wayward. Waywards want both. Why would he change his FB? He still feels entitled to you. And to her. Keep on with your plans.

OK good news, the OWH has just contacted me, he has left OW after 10 years together! He seems to want to talk so fingers crossed this is a step forward. He also sent a friend request through facebook so my WH and his OW will soon see that the betrayed partners have now become facebook friends.

I feel quite powerful at the moment. This has got to be the right thing to do.