So just go for it now with what I have and let the turmoil and confusion begin on her part correct.I mean it would take a idiot not to see from the phone bills this is not what is going on. Do I wait till they ask for proof when I tell them or do I give it to them when I tell them.I am ready to post it on Facebook.

Do you have an admission from the OM or your wife that there is an affair? Tell me all of your evidence.

Can you afford to hire a PI for a couple of days? I am reluctant to have you expose without some better evidence.

He said they where just friends but that is not totally true I can promise you that I have a our cell phone bill to his number with over 300 text messages to his number and she wont tell me who the number goes to or that she even know the number. We I know better.

That's all I have right now.thats solid

I don't believe anything he said on the phone but I am still researching. I might get a friend once this is exposed.

I did have PI watch her for 1 weekend or my brother did actually and he told my brother he saw nothing out of the ordinary but she wouldn't let this come out in the light of day yet she is still married and appearance is very important to her how she looks in everyone's eyes.She still to my knowledge hasn't told anyone not even her kids.

right now I cant afford a PI the last one was a favor for my brother and I don't think I have enough time.

It would take a fool not to see what I saw in the the phone records with text messages in the earlier morning hours to just a friend. and up to 60 in one day without a explanation. its obvious I don't even need her to tell me.

I am going to have to get a house for my kids that will mean a 1 yr commitment to a landlord I doubt have a problem with that but it would be easier to fix this now.

In that case, I would do what you have to do to get the evidence. This will not be an effective exposure without that. Do you think they meet somewhere? Go to his house? Do you have a way of getting a VAR in her car or your house?

Can you have his house watched?

Can you sneak a VAR and a GPS on her car?

Right now I am unable to sneak anything on anything or hire a PI ext. I am having to spend my dollars on providing a safe place for my children.I wish I would have found this place a little faster. Like I said I have shown this to some people I know and they said she is having an EA at the least no matter what she has told me to keep out even if I was to prove more to the point of she is sleeping with the guy I don't know if that would matter to those that will exert the most pressure.

I might be able to get a VAR in the house but I am not sure at this point.But where to put it is the question to get the scoop.
If any and then how long will this take is the real question I know this is going to be a slow process just the more time this goes by it will begin to appear that I am doing the wrong thing and I might be able to get some support from her mother I don't know she is very religious and would maybe be able to apply pressure the most.

I might be able to do it in a week but this will be tougher if I don't tell the world now it looks like I have let her go and I am getting the divorce you know what I mean.

Can you quietly sneak a VAR on her car? There are instructions over on the spy forum about how to put one in her car. They are not expensive.

Don't have the key any more she took it off my key ring the other day without me knowing it. I wish I could.

Her mother believes me she said I was correct I don't need anymore proof that what I have in her mind. Its obvious.

I guess the best you can do is run with what you have then and put them in a position to spin the truth. At the very least, it will make it impossible for them to continue without exposing the truth. You will send them further underground which will put great pressure on the affair.

Go and read the link in my signature about how to expose the best way.

And is your attorney getting you back in your house? That is really important.

Well its having the effect your right the truth will set this free.

yes a temporary order is being put into place Monday

I have already done it the pressure is on.

Have you put together a list of exposure targets? I would start there and then read the link in my signature so you can get talking points and ideas for emails, letters. We can help you develop the best strategy.

ok all done got told we could never fix this now for like the 3rd time. I have blown it to often to keep blowing it I might have but it was done if I didn't. Well we will see I am a POS and the restraining order for harassment threat yada yada.

With her reaction I hit the bulls eye dead center.

Ok so now what?

So, I'm guessing you exposed and your WW hit the roof, right?

You've probably already heard...

1. I was going to work on this but not now.
2. If you loved me, how could you do this?
3. That's it, I'm done.
4. I've hated you for longer than I've known you.
5. I've been unhappy in this marriage for longer than we've been married.
6. It's your fault that Oklahoma has no ocean-front property.

Ok, #6 is a stretch, but you get the idea.

Don't argue or get in a fight with her. On the off-chance that she calls or if you see her, just tell her that you're sorry she's upset about people knowing about her adultery but that you're not going to let her drag you into a fight over it. Then leave, hang up, disengage.

I'd sit tight and ignore your WW for a few days...or until you hear back about the temporary order. If anyone contacts you about the exposure, just tell them the truth: Your WW is having an affair and, because you don't approve of it, has kicked you out of the house and is likely going to come up with a bogus domestic violence charge to keep you out.

You may hear from some that criticize you for exposing. Just tell them that you're sorry to hear that they will not support your family, but that if they change their mind you'd be glad to talk to them.

Your task with exposure is to ASK those people to use their influence, whatever that might be, to get your WW to knock it off.

Good job, by the way, on the voice recorder.

You have no children together, right? Is your current housing situation going to impact your custody with your ex-wife?

Yep I just hope that it will work, I am sure I have very few friends on the other side but I may have a ally in the group.

My relationship with Ex wife is good my kids are ok and there is no problem with the arrangement other than she wants me to get back home or get a new home, She understands.

And yes I have heard all of the above except for the Ocean property....lol