The last month with DH has been headed so in the right direction so I am so confused by what just happened. I am at a loss and so upset. Please any advice or insight will be helpful.
This morning I asked him to breakfast after dropping DD off at preschool and he got done with his physical therapy for a shoulder injury he has had awhile. He agreed to meet me there. While waiting for him I had made a post on my facebook wall about enjoying breakfast with my sexy hubby.

When he got there things were good. We talked until we sat down. He checked his phone and saw my post. He got mad about it. He was mad because he said it made it seem like things were happy and normal. It had been a complaint in the past from him that I acted like things were okay when they weren't. I understood that, but was a bit crushed because I thought things were going great and didn't think my comment would offend him. I thought it would do the opposite and make him feel admired. The rest of breakfast was awkward. He ignored me and I tried not to cry and tried to figure out how to turn it around.

After eating we talked in the parking lot. He went on about how unhappy he was and had been for years. How he felt stuck and dependent on me especially now that he was unemployed. He felt like he needed to make things right by getting a job and leaving. That he married me because he felt stuck even then. That with the trouble we initially had getting pregnant, never thought we would and that having a kid would bring us closer if it did. That he'd just been trying to make me happy all those years and make the best of things. He said he felt like now I was just agreeing to things and not arguing with him to make him happy and make him stay.

That isn't true. I worked hard to follow Dr. Harley's and rid myself of LB's. Obviously I have, but he sees it as me just trying to keep him here. When I haven't agreed with something he's doing I've dealt with it very differently than I used to to avoid LB's, but I haven't just agreed to his way when it made me unhappy.

The whole spill I've heard before many times. It was often when he went through his periods of withdrawal and we were fighting a ton. He even told me that and said I seemed like it was a shock to me now. Well it is because the last month has been amazing. Am I that clueless that I misread his actions the last month?

I know what you all will suggest. Is he having an A? No. I know he's not. During the last two years he had one EA at the start of those two years and an almost one about 6 months ago. Since that second I have confirmed no contact, checked phone records, GPS, his computer, everything. He doesn't text at all like he used to. Very rare now and he has been O&H with me about it and where he goes. He hasn't even left the house without me and DD other than for a quick run to the store or his physical therapy in about 2 months. I was able to easily reach him. Usually he texted me the whole time or called to ask something. I have confirmed easily where he was and how long he was gone has been very reasonable.

I understood the spills before when he was definitely withdrawn and foggy. This after the last month where he's begun texting me all the time and calling me out of the blue at work. After he moved back to our bed and has been calling it our room and bed again. He said during the spill today that this was because of his shoulder. He hadn't said that to me at all before today. In the past he would have pointed this out so as in his words "not to give me the wrong idea". After we have begun talking and him often initiating very happy intimate talking and joking. It's been feeling great and like it used to. We haven't had a single fight in a month, resolved our conflicts really well.

All this because of my facebook post? I'm so hurt and confused. Is this normal? I have read here and from what Dr. Harley wrote and said on withdrawal that getting out would be a one step forward two steps back process sometimes. It just felt like we were out of that, that he was coming out of it.

Did he ask you to remove the facebook post?

And do you have a keylogger on computer?

Did you tell the other posters this on your previous thread? What do you check on his cell phone and computer? Have you searched for a secret cell phone? Why are you so convinced he is not in an affair when he has done this before? Has he changed anything to prevent another affair?

Does he still have opposite sex friendships?