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I'm not closing the line of communication, but I see that any conversation with her will end up pulling me and my children into additional drama beyond the affair.
My sister is currently able to act as a go between for the time being for items of necessity.
Did your wife cancel her plans to be with the OM this weekend? Is she home with you?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
No she did not change her plans. At the moment I have been told by OMW that the no contact order was issued. I've sent the actions to the OMW. I suspect by the end of this weekend he will be arrested for failure to follow a direct order.
No she did not change her plans. At the moment I have been told by OMW that the no contact order was issued. I've sent the actions to the OMW. I suspect by the end of this weekend he will be arrested for failure to follow a direct order.
Did neither of you spouses try to stop them?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Did the OMW try to stop them? Did you do anything? At all? I am amazed!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
No she did not change her plans. At the moment I have been told by OMW that the no contact order was issued. I've sent the actions to the OMW. I suspect by the end of this weekend he will be arrested for failure to follow a direct order.
What???!!! Why did you allow this happen??? You had EVERY advantage to nuking this hook-up. How did this happen?
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
ok, how is this possible if the IG has issued a no contact order? Is the military going to meet them there and arrest him?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
There come a point, it seems, in every WW/BH situation that comes to us, that the WW totally "signs out" of her marriage. Even if the POSOM is run off in those cases, the WW will have decided NOT to return to her BH. At that point, the WW's mindset is not only that she needs (wants, desires) OM, but that she despises (hates, demeans) her spouse.
I give you your situation in that light:
- You know she's planning to see OM next weekend. - She knows you know that. - If you cannot prevent her going, what will be her reinforced opinion of your will, and effectiveness, as a man/husband/father/family leader?
One of the major tenets of this site is that it is biased toward action. Dude, take action on THIS. Put plainly, IMHO, if she goes to that assignation, you'll have little hope to save your marriage.
Pathetic, dude. No - worse than pathetic. Not only did you not STOP her, you couldn't even summon the resources to TRY to stop her. Think about how little you cared when she comes home and has you rinse out her well-exercised "dainties"!
