First, one takes into account pre-existing LB$ balances... but, that LB$ balance of a former friend/lover only half as threatening as the ability of that balance to be easily overinflated by way of nostalgia shared with those individuals.
Got to thinking about this with a current discussion with a particular member, and got rolling after reading;
[url=7 Scientific Reasons You'll Turn into Your Parents[/url]
A particular section talks about nostalgia, and links to this article;
http://veryevolved.com/2009/02/neuroscience-and-nostalgia/It�s not surprising to say nostalgia is all about memories. These recollections of our past are usually important events, people we care about, and places we�ve spent time at. What is perhaps a little surprising is that nostalgia is almost always associated with positive emotions � even when the trigger for recalling a nostalgic memory is something negative. In the study I�ve linked to the negative memory people reported was usually a bad situation that was eventually overcome � a bad memory tempered with a good outcome and association.
Tricky stuff; nostalgia is largely
positive,
even when the trigger is negative.
The problem with this?
Every time you recall a memory it may become subtly altered and associated with what ever it was that triggered that old memory. If this trigger happens repeatedly, then you�re adding new layer of interpretation that will be recalled automatically with the old memory next time it�s called up.
So, as an example; you find yourself talking about music with a friend/coworker. The thought of that song triggers nostalgia associated with the period of your life you listened to that song first, or listened to it a lot. Now... because you were triggered to this memory from conversation with the person you are talking with, that memory and that feeling become associated (if ever so slightly) to that person, or conversation with that person (in other words, a LB$ deposit is made).
Nostalgia is one thing that can make seemingly "inoccuous" conversations dangerous.
