anger + hurt + silent suffering = resentment building

It all sound normal to me.

Recovery takes 2-5 years so, while I know you'd like the resentment to go away...it doesn't happen overnight.

We often remind new BSs that recovery from an affair is a marathon, not a sprint. You can't rush it and it DOES take a lot of time.

Following the Basic Concepts here and implementing them in your M is probably the fastest route to recovery. But it still takes lots of time.

Hey everyone, I'm just checking in. I know it's been a long time since I posted but I do visit often and read.

In Recovery and it has been really good. No sign of contact with OW and believe me, I still check, spy and snoop.

My H has been very mindful to avoid things that trigger me and when he even knows I'm having a bad day, he is quick to comfort me. I know it pains him to see the pain he has caused me. I don't have many moments where the thought consumes me but I know he gets sad when I flat out tell him, "I don't trust you". Not sad for himself, but sad cause he knows he can't argue this fact or dare ask why it is I don't trust him.

Have not heard a peep good, bad or indifferent from the OW or OWH so whether or not they are in their own recovery is unknown to me nor do I care. Not my problem.

I'm grateful to have had such a great support system, friends, family... both mine and H's. The only time it got really tough is the year anniversary of D Day. Huge triggers for me but I got through it.

And thanx to all of you here even though I haven't posted. One only needs to read the plethora of information here. Really... I could find answers to my questions just by reading. And sometimes I find myself yelling at newly BS's when they hum and haul with exposure. I started exposure before I ever found MB. Only thing I would have done differently is done it in one atomic blast!

So yah, things are good. My DD just got her driver's permit. Lord give me strength! lol She is doing good with it. Has a healthy fear about driving. She will start drivers Ed in the summer.

Did you ever find evidence of a PA? And how did exposure to OWH go? Great job in recovery, I agree there are so many answers within these pages!