|
|
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1
Member
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2001
Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 |
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 5,247
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 5,247 |
Thats not urgent, right?
Call if you feel like it. If you're too stressed - or you think it will cause you to blow up at your husband -- call him next week....
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
He is an ex-coworker of WH's that he went on the trip with when he met OW#2 and her friend.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2011
Posts: 552
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2011
Posts: 552 |
Your husband is in spin mode. He's got his friends backing him up now.
This caller is probably a wayward too. Telling you he's not mad because you called his wife? The only reason he'd be mad is if he has something to hide?
In some ways, the phone message just serves to confirm what you're already finding out...your WH's secret life and the friends who participate in it with him.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 5,247
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 5,247 |
He's calling you to cover his own behind.
You've alerted his wife to an issue, and he wants to prevent you from talking to his wife again -- now that your husband has started coming clean.
Its fairly obvious that "wingman" had something going with OW2's friend that he doesn't want his wife to hear about.
What did you talk to his wife about?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2009
Posts: 2,708
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2009
Posts: 2,708 |
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2011
Posts: 552
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2011
Posts: 552 |
Definitely ignore. You don't need more spin right now.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
Heading to pick up WH now... I'll give an update shortly!!!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 8,240
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 8,240 |
 Stay Strong. We'll be here for you, either way.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 721
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 721 |
good luck. be a superStar!!!
Me 44- yes ugggh
WH 47
together 26 years M 19
serial cheater big time
DD1 2.24.11
NC letter sent 3/7/11
NC letter to OW2 april
final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18
working the plan
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 721
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 721 |
ITA with Lexy and Zibbles about the friend, you made them all scared now! good girl.
Me 44- yes ugggh
WH 47
together 26 years M 19
serial cheater big time
DD1 2.24.11
NC letter sent 3/7/11
NC letter to OW2 april
final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18
working the plan
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
Thank you!!! I'm so nervous!!!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 721
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 721 |
i know unfortunately, i had to drive 2 hours for H and two hours back in a terrible storm, i was going to puke the whole time and even after he passed i wanted to puke. we didnt talk the whole way back and forth
I am so sorry that you have to do this, but it is necessary for you.
I hope he doesnt weasle out, stay strong and give him the opportunity to fess up more and thank him for being honest if he does. listen i kinda look at it as how much worse could it get its all bad.
Me 44- yes ugggh
WH 47
together 26 years M 19
serial cheater big time
DD1 2.24.11
NC letter sent 3/7/11
NC letter to OW2 april
final truths 5/8-- all of them poly confirmed 5/18
working the plan
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 5,247
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 5,247 |
Breathe Deep and Slow.
You got this! You will be fine no matter what.
You've been a MB rock-star!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
We are here... He's filling out the forms now!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 8,240
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 8,240 |
We are here... He's filling out the forms now! YAY. Stay calm. We're here for ya.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
He told me in the car that he has told me everything.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2011
Posts: 11,650 |
You've been a MB rock-star! Yes you have!!!!!! 
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 8,240
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 8,240 |
He told me in the car that he has told me everything. And I hope he has. Good on him if he passes.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Mar 2012
Posts: 803 |
He is taking the test now. I'm supposed to pick him up in an hour and 1/2. WH told me that when we were figuring out the questions that he wanted me to make sure that I was telling the guy everything that I needed to ask him, because he doesn't want me to regret not getting an answer to something that I really need to know. I kept thanking him for going through with this!!!
|
|
|
Moderated by Ariel, BerlinMB, Denali, Fordude, IrishGreen, MBeliever, MBsurvivor, MBSync, McLovin, Mizar, PhoenixMB, Toujours
|
0 members (),
213
guests, and
51
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Children
by BrainHurts - 10/19/24 03:02 PM
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,615
Posts2,323,460
Members71,895
| |
Most Online3,185
Jan 27th, 2020
|
|
|
|
