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Thanks, CV. I will do that now.
I discovered that there were many, many other affairs throughout our time together. Additionally, as of today, we've only been married for a little over 8 1/2 months. We do not have children together, nor do we own any property together. While it saddens me deeply, it's time for me to move on. I will be 30 in June and hopefully divorced by that point. Looking forward to new beginnings on my own.
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Oh Good Lord! Good luck to you in the future, CH. You're doing the right thing.
I would also highly encourage to participate in the divorce forum, and website, to aid you in your healing from this mess.
This site (especially it's members) has been a tremendous blessing for me. Hopefully it will be for you as well.
I wish you all the best.
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Thank you for the support, Tiger.
Hello all @ the divorce board. I thought i would do a quick recap of who I am and what I'm going through.
BS (Me)- 29
WH- 28
Married since June of 2011, together since 2004.
DS (from previous relationship)- 8 and adorable
DDay- 12/21/11 discovered EA on Facebook as well as an additional PA that had begun prior to our marriage with WS boss. Later discovered multiple PA's that had gone on throughout our entire relationship.
WH wants to work on the marriage but I have decided to file for divorce.
I hope to become an active member on this board. I am in need of support and hope that once I find my healing, I can offer support to others in the future.
I feel embarrassed that I chose to spend my life with WH and had no idea of the life he lead behind my back. I hope that healing comes with an awareness as well, so I do not find myself here ever again.
Looking forward to getting to know you all.
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Thanks, CV. I will do that now.
I discovered that there were many, many other affairs throughout our time together. Additionally, as of today, we've only been married for a little over 8 1/2 months. We do not have children together, nor do we own any property together. While it saddens me deeply, it's time for me to move on. I will be 30 in June and hopefully divorced by that point. Looking forward to new beginnings on my own. Sounds like you made a solid decision. Good luck with your divorce. CV
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Hi,
Ive been reading on and off and posting on the marriage builders weekend site.
My husband and I have been trying to work through the selfish demadns work sheets and i believe it has made us grow more wary and more distant of each other.
reading the above posts I wonder if when my husband tells me he had absolutely no feelings of roamance for the woman wit whom he had a long ditance telephonic relationship is actually true. he has exhibited no remorse in discontinuing the relationship and actually seems relieved and seems to have just shut her out of his life, But the damage is done he was unfaithful. WE are serioudly considering a trial separation because i cannot handle all the triggers I have to struggle eith every day.
Is it possible to forgrt that your spouse has been bad mouthing you with another woman and then coming back to you to cuddle up and tell you he loves you ? What kind of person does that make him? Does he have a double personality ,is he lying or what?
what now? Dr harley says talk about the affair and then close that chapter in your lives forever. Has anyone been succesful in dooing that. At this moment divorce seems to be the one thing that will give me peace fo mind and restore my dignity as a human being
married 20 years
3 beautiful children(19,17 and 12)
DDAY 1 - June 2003(EA ? duration)
DDAY 2 - OCT 2011(EA spanning 4-5 Years)
MB Weekend course Feb:2012
Joel 2:25 -"I will restore unto you the years that the Locust has eaten."
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onlybyhisgrace, please go and start up your own thread so people can help you. Go to the Surviving an Affair forum and post a new thread there. That way people can give you plenty of attention.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Filed this morning. Can't stop flipping between tears and relief. What a waste.
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((((Coldhands)))
So sorry for your pain. Did you get a good lawyer?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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