Lightsout,

You might want to add to the letter that she should snoop before she reveals what she knows to OM. Send her info. about polygraphs, VARs, PIs, keyloggers etc.

God Bless
Gamma

I will do that Gamma.

Also LO while you're waiting for the day for the polys, what are you working on to be the best H?

You're in plan A correct? Are you working on your exposure list?

What are you doing to also take care of you?
You still snooping? How old are your kids?

Lightsout,

Can you tell I don't like OM who attempt to destroy families? Good luck.

God Bless
Gamma

Gamma I flat out missed this A it almost had flashing lights around it. W would come home and tell me how nice this guy she worked with was and why couldn't I be that way. Looking back he was just setting her up was makes me so mad was she fell for his BS.

LO,

Did you see my above post?

BrainHurts W is off today but went to the store. I have no female friends. W has all passwords as do I. I have been working on questions for the poly as well a list to expose if she fail the poly. I have been meeting all her EN doing whatever she ask also taking her out on dates more often. Regardless of the poly I still am going to expose to OM now W to let her know what was going on at the time she was exclusively dating OM supposedly. Will have update Monday on how she reacts to the questions I am going to ask. I am going to give her the list tomorrow and tell her about the appointments.

Ok good job.
Has the BH been informed of your A in your situatuion

BrainHurts the BH call me up and cuss me out. He told me his W told him everything. I told him I was sorry(like that really helps). He told me he would kill me if he ever caught me around his W. I can't blame him I was lucky back then that my W was working when he called. Will have update tomorrow if I can. W is home.

Lightsout,

Funny, that's similar to what my W was saying about OM2, she would talk glowingly about his love of animals, his Mother, going out to lunch with him, how much he helped her at work.

We also went on a few threesome "dates" with OM2 where I paid!

To this day she has never found fault with him or spoken about his part in the affair.

How does you W feel about OM? Does she refuse to talk about him?

Around that time there was also an even more objectionable co-worker my W spoke very well of , but she denies anything happened. Her body language says otherwise.

God Bless
Gamma

Lightsout,

My W never said why can't I be like OM2, I think she understood that OM2 did not have my qualities, and I did not have his qualities. If she could have maintained us both perhaps she would have.

I was not as in shape or handsome as OM2, and he did not appear to have earning potential or a sense of responsibility.

A big fear she had was that OM2 would ultimately cheat on her or she knew she would always feel insecure about him. Another fear she had was that OM2 was too much like her cheating father.

My W was also a fill in between OM2s girlfriend and his now W, makes me sad that my W was used that way.

God Bless
Gamma

I'm glad the BH knows of your affair.

Let us know how the polys go.

Saturday evening ask my W if she remembered say she would take a polygraph test she said yes but we don't need to spend money on that. I told her no buts her are the questions you will be answering that you also need to come up with 3 questions for me. it look like the blood drained from her face. She didn't say much more that evening she spent the rest of the evening in bed watching TV. I woke up a 3 am to go the the restroom she was awake. Sunday morning she went to her sisters and said we would talk whenever she got home. When W returned She said that she did not want to take the polygraph but there was something she had to to tell me. The a with the OM had begun 3 months before she left. I suspected this because I saw OM car at W apartment the next morning after she left on my way to work. also learned OM was engaged at the time of the A he has since married same woman. Told W polygraph was still on and if there is anything else she needs to come clean now because it will be better to tell me the truth not rather than later. W said she would take poly but not much else. I also told her I was thinking of leaving if she failed the poly.

Good job to start getting to the truth.

Normal WW response to being told about the poly. They throw out some more truth hoping it is enough to get you to stop your quest for the whole truth.

After you are done expose the OMW that the OM was cheating on her before the got married.

I am planing on sending her a letter but I now think I will also call her to make sure she finds the truth about her now husband.

I would call the BW of the OM, because then you know for sure she gets the information from you.

Also good job on telling your WW about the poly and going forward with them.

Be careful about making a decision on "divorcing her if she fails the poly". I'm not saying you don't have a right to. I'm just saying to give yourself time, before you make such a big decision. Have you thought about calling the MB coaching center?

BrainHurts I am going to call OM BW but I am going to wait until W and I take the poly test.

Lightsout,

Given how long your W held out on that critical information, I would suggest you not tell your W your intentions to inform OMW. There is some chance your W still holds a good opinion of OM and would warn OM so he could spin the story to his BW. I've not told my W for that same reason.

Has your W ever said anything bad about OM?

God Bless
Gamma

I agree, I wouldn't call OM W until after the poly.

W woke me up before she went to work this morning to tell me she talked to her counselor yesterday and the counselor advised her not to take the polygraph test. I got PO and told W to call counselor to stay out of my private life or I was going to file a complaint with the state license board. W did not say whether she had changed her mind about the test. I was still half asleep so I did not ask questions. Now what do I do??