What is wrong with these people??Another friend of OMW just replied and said she doesnt want to hurt OMW by telling her!!!!She said I should resolve with my wife and that she doesnt see how OMW can help us.

That person is obviously stupid. Telling OMW is a good thing, she deserves to know what is going on!

did Dr Harley ever addressed the issue where the BS is in denial and refuses to confront their WS about the affair?I sent OMW tons of msgs and still no response.

Unfortunately, sometimes the OMW will bury their head in the sand. Your best bet is NOT to leave messages but wait for an answer from her directly. IE, when you call, wait for HER to answer. Or send a certified letter.

This seems like a hopeless case....I think I am forced to give up.
I dont have a mailing address to send the letter to.
I seriously think the OMW is in denial.All her friends are telling me to just work on my wife and there is no need to get her or anyone involved.

Do you have OM BW's phone number? Can you get it? This is your best bet... or maybe a certified letter.

I am taking it from your posts that the only means of contact you have with this BW is FB. Try other means. If you seriously can not get in touch any other way, send a FB friend request. I have learned recently that when you click on a FB friend request (as I did to check if I knew the person or not) the messages then pop up. This may lead to the BW actually seeing your message.

Still, your best bet is to try other means of contact. This woman needs to know, and you need to exhaust every avenue to let her know.

Yes the only contact I have is FB.She lives in another country.
But like I said,I think she is in denial becos her friends claimed they have told her to reply to my email.But so far,no response.Some of her friends said they think she knows already.
They are all telling me to let go.The only support I get is from this forum.I am at wits end.....

Thinking is different to knowing. She may not have taken you seriously... who knows? I had a friend telling me my WH was having an affair and I still instinctively wanted to believe my WH. It was reflex, I had never previously had reason to question him. Some BS's will deny, and are too scared to seek the truth. It does not mean they don't want or deserve the truth.

Have you googled her? It can be suprising what google reveals. Helping a friend with her WH's OW, I managed to find out OW BH's office, phone number and email address.

What other efforts will you make to contact her?

Yes,thats what I said to them.I told them they were just assuming she knows.They dont want to deal with me anymore.I strongly suspect OMW told them to say what they said.They just brushed me off and asked me to work on my wife instead.
I have exhausted all options to look her up.Google,yahoo,all the other search sites....nothing turned up.

OM suddenly deleted his fb!!!No contact with WW for a whole day which is very odd since they chat every single day.On my previous posts,I mentioned I sent OMW an expo letter but no response.Perhaps she did receive the letter afterall??I told OMW they are planning for a getaway the end of the month.I am picturing in my head the havoc the expo letter has created for the OM.

XP,

Even OMWs who have been beaten down by a lifetime of self-denial, lies and depression have a breaking point. I've seen this so many times. Hopefully you've done your part to release OMW from her hell of a marriage.

God Bless
Gamma

Scumbag OM told his BW that nothing happened between he and my WW.He denied PA and said he was just flirting around.I am afraid his BW might just buy his Bullsxxt!!! I know he will continue the affair and go deeper underground.OM and WW wont give up that easily.Yesterday,just as I was about to throw in the towel,God answered my prayer!I thought OMW was in denial and all her friends didnt want to deal with me .They said I was too needy for contacting everyone for help.

Where did this info come from?

A friend of OMW.At first,she didnt want to get involved and said I should work on my wife instead of going crazy asking strangers online to help with my marital problems.She left me a message telling me what the OMW told her.So far,OMW still hasnt communicated with me. I was told OM and his BW will reconcile but I think sneaky OM will go behind BW's back.

WW is very distressed now since OM deleted his fb and vanished into thin air.He didnt pick up his phone.Everyone from the reunion are trying figure out what happened on the group fb.Should I come out and tell them what happened?Is there anything else I could do?What makes WW feel guilty and show true remorse?

I'm a bit confused about what is going on... How do you know WW is distressed about OM deleting his fb and not answering his phone? I am hopeful that exposure may be taking effect... POSOM has bigger problems at the moment than answering his phone and his BW is laying down the rules for recovery (hence fb being deleted).

I also don't follow about you telling others about exposure... did you expose to all? How do some not know you exposed? I never denied exposure. I explained I was fighting for my marriage and what I believed in. And asking for support in doing so. People largely respected this. Even when I exposed to skanks's side, overall (bar two enablers) people respected this or chose to ignore it.

As for what makes WW feel guilty and show true remorse... you can't control her. By exposing and following Plan A, and if needed, Plan B, you are giving your marriage the best chance of recovery. And yourself, if your WW does not wake up in time.

WW told me about OM deleting fb.I can tell she is troubled by the sudden disappearance.OMW also sent a friend request to my wife.I dont know why OMW would not accept my friend request.She never returned any of my msg but yet,she wants to contact WW....can anyone make any sense out of that?Why is she avoiding to work with me?I told her we could share intelligence.WW does not care nor want to make contact with OMW.
Everything started at this reunion and they have a fb page.They are trying to figure out what had happened to OM.I didnt exposed to the reunion people because these are the enablers.They encouraged WW to have the affair.Many of them are cheaters themselves.I saw some very unsettling pics taken at their reunion parties and gathering .They are now trying to help WW locate OM by going to his workplace.OM told a friend his fb was hacked.
WW has plans to visit OM at the end of the month.I warned her that she could be prosecuted for adultery with a jail sentence.Adultery is a criminal offense in the country where the affair took place.She took my warning today with a huge fit!She went berserk and we both lashed out.Was it not ok to warn her?Did that seem like a threat to her?You think I should still expo to the reunion group becos perhaps not everyone are enablers?If affair ends during plan A but WW shows no remorse and has no intention to R,then what happens?Should I still goto Plan B then?

OMW just sent a message to WW.She forwarded all my msgs to WW.She is furious now!!!!What is OMW thinking???!!!She is moving out tomorrow!!Did this backfire?

Xtremepain,

A 2 year old will react the same when you don't let them pull a dog's tail or stick their hand in the oven. They won't like it. Doesn't mean it's not for the greater good and a lesson on proper consequences.

Should I just let her move out?

I am sooo confused why OMW fwded all msgs to WW...does anyone know why????why???