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I told my husband to leave tonight. I just cant stand to look at him. Im so angry and hurt. I just want to know how to move forward without him. I guess sometimes love is not enough.
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Sohurt, I'm so sorry for your pain. Did you you ever tell your son the truth? What about your sister? Exposure 101 You sound so pained have you been able to do any Plan A? Carrot and Stick of Plan A
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Dr. Harley recommends 3 weeks of Plan A for BW and then Plan B How yo Plan B properly Have you read any of Dr. Harley's works? What are Plan A and Plan B
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Yes I told my son but he doesnt really understand what a prostitute is. He doesnt even understand what sex is. I also told my parents and sister.
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Yes I told my son but he doesnt really understand what a prostitute is. He doesnt even understand what sex is. I also told my parents and sister. sohurt, your son is 13. Your son is old enough to understand what a prostitute is. If he doesn't understand what sex is, you can explain it to him, along with the concept of adultery. I know this is tough on you, but he needs to hear about all this from you and not from his buddies at school.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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13 year olds know what sex is. He is already in school with children who have been having sex. He knows what a prostitute is. I understand this is hard for a mom (hey, I have a son too) but please give your son more credit than this.
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I just love her!! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I did tell my son and tried to explain it the best way I could. I just felt like he acted like he didnt understand. For some reason I just still think of him as little I guess. I just feel so sick to the stomach. It hurts so much to have your family destroyed. I went out today to the store and just driving down the street I remembered things about us. Why am I missing someone who has hurt me so bad?
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. Why am I missing someone who has hurt me so bad? Thats entirely natural. Women in films and music videos might click their fingers and move on past loving as soon as they've launched his bags out the door, but that's not real life. You have a love bank for him - that he spent x amount of years filling. Its not going to magically disappear. Either you choose to fall out of love in Plan C, (not recommended) where he lovebusts the amount down with maximum pain at each withdrawal, or you Plan B, which sees you grieve naturally for a while and then heal in peace. Plan B is pretty great.
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What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I just love her!! 
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I did tell my son and tried to explain it the best way I could. I just felt like he acted like he didnt understand. For some reason I just still think of him as little I guess. I just feel so sick to the stomach. It hurts so much to have your family destroyed. I went out today to the store and just driving down the street I remembered things about us. Why am I missing someone who has hurt me so bad? Also if you go to Plan B it will help you heal. You do havea large balance in your lovebank and Dr. H did just say the other day on the show that BS with large balances have a difficult time going to Plan B.
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