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Hi
Please help. I love my husband so much but he just doesnt take my feeling or opinions into account. He says that my opinions dont count as he is the man. If i dont agree on everything he says then i am doing it on purpose to attack him and he makes me out to be a bad person. Little things like shouting at me because i dont wash dishers the way he thinks they should be done etc. I cant remember all of them but its constant criticism about everything i do. As soon as i defend myself he says i have an attitude and he is sick of my attitude and the way the marriage is going. He never takes accountability for anything yet as soon as i say that he reverses it and says its me that always says im never wrong. I cant win no matter what i do. I have told him how i feel thousands of time in letters as he wont let me talk he just shouts. I cant have any hobbies as he says i should be rather baking or spending more time with the family. I am always home when he gets home and im home with him all weekend so i dont know when it is that im not spending time with the family. He doesnt listen to my needs and i have grown to resent him. He demands that i hug him and show him affection but i cant because of the resentment. i have explained this to him and all he can say is hsowm me more affection then. He just doesnt listen and im at the point where i hate him and im tired of trying to make it work. i have almost become hard and i dont feel anymore.
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Take a look at Dr. Harley's two articles about "When to Call it Quits". Has your husband ever threatened you physically? If so, leave immediately.
AM
BW - 73
WH - 68
M - 43 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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Hi
No he has never hit me. He just shouts. He gets such a angry look in his eyes that it looks like he could but in 4 years he never has. The worst he has done is while shouting at me i stood up to him so he came and put his forehead against mine while shouting at me and staring me down so i pushed him away and he pushed me back.
He just wont compromise on anything and everything must be his way otherwise im not a proper wife and he runs me down. Im so frustrated. I tell him how can you demand affection when you treat me so badly but he just doesnt get it. He has never apologised or admitted he is wrong. His work friends are even telling him he needs anger manangement courses as he is very angry at work.
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