Tjis is kind of long so I hope a couple people will read through it
I am married going on three years. Have a 7 yr old daughter
With my wife and a 13 yr old stepson. I love my family more than
Anything and I work a lot of hours and days. A lot of stress comes from work
Between the stress of the job and worrying about making sure the bills
And mortgage is being paid I get aggregated very easy. Seems like I am
Always in a bad mood and angry. Last weekend my wife and I had a fight, a bad one
Where she said she hated me and wanted to leave. She couldn't stand being around me
She would Waite until I left for work. Wore coming back home after dropping the kids off at school. She is tired of the way I am always in a bad mood, don't talk nice to her and I never communicate with her she has said this in the past plenty of times and I would say I will change and do for about a week then fall back into my old ways. This last fight really hit home and made me realize what I have been doing is wrong. I am willing to change and have started I need to learn to communicate with her. I am a good person just need to not let the stressful things get to me and just be happy and enjoy my family. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. She told me I need to fix myself first enforce we can fix being a husband and wife again.

Hi tunatales, welcome to Marriage Builders. It sounds like you need to learn to control your anger more than anything. Losing your temper is always a choice, regardless of what is happening in your life. And if you can learn to control your temper, you might be able to save your marriage. That is where I would focus FIRST. Look into getting anger management classes with Anger Busters and focus primarily on the first 5 chapters of Dr Harley's book, Lovebusters.

Did you live together before you were married?

Here is a thread with Dr Harley's suggestions about resolving anger problems: http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2603602#Post2603602

Yes we lived together for 7 yrs. I am not abusive where I would ever hit
Or touch a woman especially my wife in any way but I do understand what you are saying. I was always a very happy easy going person. Once I started to lose jobs due to them closing down and now I moved my family from a house we were renting that was being sold to buying our own house In a very nice neighborhood with a great school system for the kids and been in my current job for the past 5 yrs which is a very good job. But over the last yr there has been so much stress at work here I let it get to me and carry it over into the house I guess. I realize it now and in the past week have relaxed and not let everything bother me and even started to communicate with my wife. Small steps I know it's going to take a long time for her to see that I truly changed but I know I can and will for my family's sake as well as my own.

TT, I would not take "baby steps," because your marriage probably won't last that long. It sounds like a very aggressive, serious approach is required if you are serious about turning this around.

If you signed up for anger busters and order the Lovebusters book as I suggested, she might see that you are really serious this time.

You would also feel better about the stress in your life if you learned to manage your anger.

Here is the anger busters website and they have references to therapists here: http://angerbusters.com/store/angerbusting101