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One year ago I discovered my wife was having an email affair which turned into her sleeping with the other man a few times. The other man lives in another country. She stated it was the only time it has ever happened and would never happen again. We have been married for 12 years. I have recently discovered she is speaking with him again via email. We have three children and an otherwise great life together. It is probably clear to everyone but me, but now what.
Thank you
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Welcome and sorry for what has brought you here. First thing is you need to kill the affair and exposure will do that. Please read this Exposure 101 your most powerful weapon Is the OM married? Do you have kids and what are their ages?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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The OM is married with children. It was never exposed to his wife. Our children are 12, 10 and 6. My wife does not know I have discovered she has started speaking to the OM again.
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The OM is married with children. It was never exposed to his wife. Our children are 12, 10 and 6. My wife does not know I have discovered she has started speaking to the OM again. Ok this is the best time to expose. Did you read that link? Do you have contact info on OM's BW? We've had affairs die the day they were exposed. Also in that link I gave you it walks you through on what to say and whom to and what to tell your kids. This needs to be done all at once. It's your best weapon for you to take a stand for your M and family.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I appreciate your help, thank you.
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I appreciate your help, thank you. You're welcome,Of course we've been where you are. Did you read the exposure link?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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