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#2620197 04/28/12 11:25 PM
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Can anyone recommend a free keylogger?

Thank you.

I am hurt and suspect my wife is cheating again

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i used desktop shark. it has a free trial for 3 days, and will screenshot everything. 3 days may do you. have you checked out the investigation board?


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Originally Posted by Starwriter
Can anyone recommend a free keylogger?

Thank you.

I am hurt and suspect my wife is cheating again

Welcome Starwriter and sorry for your pain, but this is the best place to land to save your marriage if she is indeed cheating again.

Keylogger Programs

If you do find something do not confront her. Come back here and get advice from us.


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Starwriter #2620203 04/29/12 12:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Starwriter
Can anyone recommend a free keylogger?

Thank you.

I am hurt and suspect my wife is cheating again

Also can you tell us about your wife's cheating in the past?

Also read this to help you and give us some more information on your situation.
For Newly Betrayed Spouses


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BrainHurts #2620241 04/29/12 05:28 AM
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Hi,

The facts: married 28years. @ children one still at home over 18.
past; caught her cheating 17 years ago when children. she was with old boyfriend in physical and emotional affair. I exposed it to other guys wife. It was a big deal. Other guys wife kept calling us and finding me to discuss it. My wife almost left for him but he didn't want to leave his marriage(he had new baby). Nice huh. I almost left and/or divorce but stayed and my wife got counseling. Things calm for a while.

present- Bad feelings, no physical intemicy. suddend plans for lunch dinner or other things. Not a lot but once a week or so. Once in a while gets a little mad recently if I probe.also mentions guys name she works with a few times. she seems to make plans without telling me lately. I remmeber she went to his wedding which I believe is over now. He is younger then her. Her work friend is also a cheater and her man works with same guy. Hmmm.

Investigation-I have her email and facebook and check often. I also check her phone and find nothing. But it still doesnt feel right. At the least she doesnt love me and would rather be with someone else/ It makes me depressed and i have trouble hiding it.
I am disabled and home all the time.

Should I? Should I buy flowers for anniversery coming up? I dont think I can. Can my feelings be wrong?

Maybe I should of listed this under a different title.

Thanks for any help.

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Ok so have you slapped a keylogger on the home computer yet?

If you have that feeling you need to snoop to check it out. If she is in an affair it could be with this guy at work? Can you drop by her work unannounced and take her to lunch?

Put a GPS on her car and a VAR in her car. Check this out. Operation Investigate

Yes buy her flowers and act like everyhting is normal(as much as that is right now). You are in what we call Plan A. Please read about that here Carrot and Stick of Plan A
What are Plan A and Plan B

I know you're hurting but you will need to put your emotions aside and follow a plan. Marriage builders is all about plans. Right now you're 007 and you need to snoop to get the goods. Excellent article by Dr. Harley on snooping Snooping is it right or Wrong?

Can you do this? We can help you with this if you want.

One more thing. Do not tell your wife about MB at this time.



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BrainHurts #2620247 04/29/12 06:33 AM
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I havent told her about site. I never would. I am snooping and do check her email, Facebook and phone. I will try to put emotion aside, but its not easy since this hppened before and I feel like a guy that she married but all these years she would prefer to be with someone else all the time.

Last time I stayed married, I couldn't do that if this happened again. I keep hoping I'm wrong, but want proof either way.
No, I need keylogger still.

Thank you
She comes home for lunch most days.

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Originally Posted by Starwriter
present- Bad feelings, no physical intemicy. suddend plans for lunch dinner or other things. Not a lot but once a week or so. Once in a while gets a little mad recently if I probe.also mentions guys name she works with a few times. she seems to make plans without telling me lately. I remmeber she went to his wedding which I believe is over now. He is younger then her. Her work friend is also a cheater and her man works with same guy. Hmmm.
What does this mean that she makes plans without telling you? Just stays out late and doesn't call or come home?

Can you slap a GPS and VAR in her car?

Also if you're having too much difficulty with the pain it might be a good time to get into your doctor and ask about AD's. Dr. Harely recommends them when you're going through such a tough time.


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



BrainHurts #2620250 04/29/12 07:00 AM
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i cant put in car. Just sudden plans for lunch or dinner. She asks if its ok at last minute. Some other scheduling plans she lately ahs made without talking about it.

Im not in that much pain. I just want to know the truth. I am in physical pain from injuries to arm and hands

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Originally Posted by Starwriter
i cant put in car. Just sudden plans for lunch or dinner. She asks if its ok at last minute. Some other scheduling plans she lately ahs made without talking about it.

Im not in that much pain. I just want to know the truth. I am in physical pain from injuries to arm and hands
Why can't you put them in her car?

Then can you hire a PI? This will be the fastest way to get the information.


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



BrainHurts #2620269 04/29/12 08:56 AM
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I can do the VAR. Where do you buy it at? keylogger is set up too. at least a free trial

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Originally Posted by Starwriter
I can do the VAR. Where do you buy it at? keylogger is set up too. at least a free trial
You can buy them at radio shack.

Check them out here Recording Equipment


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.




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