But she's trying to be fair and considerate??!!?!?

No such thing in divorce. And $1500 in CS?? How many kids? Wow are you Bill Gates?

You're countering, correct?

Just because she filed doesn't mean you're divorced.

I am countering. Meeting with lawyers on the 9th to work up the papers.

I understand that just because she filed we're not divorced but it hurts so bad to see it written down that she wants a divorce.

I know my friend. Stay in the good fight.

Marriage Builders may not save all marriages but it will save all people who follow it.

She is absolutely crazy. So I'm at the dealership talking to the salesman about a vehicle and she calls. I silence the ringer. 2 minutes she calls back. I silence the ringer again because I'm in the middle of a conversation. 2 minutes and she texts and says that she is trying to get in touch with me. 4 minutes later I had walked outside and she calls again. No voicemails the first 2 times by the way.

I answer the third time because I'm irritated. She says "I've been trying to get in touch with you". She also says "well you're not at work". I say "No I'm not but I'm with someone. Why didnt you leave a voicemail"? No answer to my question. So come to find out she called to ask me where one of our daughter's bags was at.

WTH is the deal? She is so concerned about where I am and what I'm doing but she doesnt want anything to do with me. When we hang up she says "well I guess I'll let you get back to whoever you are with".

I am trying with every fiber of my being to be pleasant and cordial to her but I think she intentionally tries to tick me off.

Come to fin

Oh and she would have to had either called my work or went by there to know I wasnt there.

Is she used to having you at her beck and call?

That would be an understatement. I have always been right there whenever she needed anything.

That would explain part of her contempt for you. Another thing I would expect her to do is to antagonize you into losing your temper so she can use that as ammunition against you.

I have to say that these stupid juvenile games shes playing are getting very old.

Contempt? So shes mad at me for not jumping when she calls?

Women have contempt for men they can run over. So you need to focus on earning her respect by not being at her beck and call. The worst thing you can do with a tyrannical dictator is accede to their demands. So just focus on being FIRM and resolved without being a doormat. Can you do that?

Mel, I think I am very quickly getting to the point where I dont care as much as I did in regards to whether I make her mad. I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that this doormat has been walked on the last time.

I'm pretty sure she got that point today. I was not disrespectful nor was I angry but I was firm in letting her know that I was with someone and she can leave messages.

She called twice the left 2 text messages and then called again. All within 6 or so minutes. And it was about some stupid bag!!!

You are catching on, my friend! And your reaction is perfect, polite but firm. Don't let her drag you into a fight. If she can get you into a fight, she can take the focus off her affair. Many WS' try to pick fights for that reason.

You are doing just fine....

Does anyone know if any of the reverse phone number services are any good?

I just hope I'm not catching on too late.

They are very hit and miss. I think most don't charge until they give you a name, though. Did you check out whitepages.com? Sometimes that is a really good free source.

I tried a couple on whitepages, but I need names. I just didn't know the best way to go about getting names for the numbers.

Did you put the #s in the "reverse lookup" section?