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Originally Posted by maritalbliss
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I'm a peacemaker at heart
So was Jesus, and He kicked some serious [censored] at the temple when the money-changers showed up. There is a time of accounting when someone goes over the line.. Jesus demonstrated that.
Amen! You need to take the advice of the vets here at MB that God has led you to and expose this affair!
Ephesians 5:10-14
��try to do discern what is pleasing to the Lord. Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says, �Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you�.�

John 3:20-21
�For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.�

Maybe God will intervene and change her hardened heart.

He won't. And you're wasting your time praying for Him to do something He just will not do. His nature will not allow Him to. He gives us a free will to choose Him. He doesn't make us choose Him or make us obey Him. That choice is always ours. Rest assurred that God is reaching out to your WW in love every second of every day and He has all the power in the universe to change her, but not until she requests it. The change has to begin with her. And there's nothing you can do to make that change come about. However, there are things you can do that will increase the likelihood of that change taking place. Take the advice of the ones on this forum, and from Dr. Harley.
Expose. Don't warn of exposure, or threaten exposure. Just do it.
Then read up on Plan B.

I am praying for you.



BW, 30 (Me)
WH, 30
HS sweethearts Nov. 1999, married Aug. 2003
DS: 5 years
DD: 1 year
D-Day #1- 2.14.09 (porn, online dating, sexting, etc.)
D-Day #2- 3.3.12 (EA w/ OW church member since Aug. 2011)
Nuclear Exposed #2- 4.15.12
Plan B- 4.30.12 unwilling to write NCL and meet other restoration conditions.
Plan D- 8.2.12 WH served me with divorce papers
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Expose this affair.
Exposure 101


FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Listen to this radio clip at 9 min mark about a W in the state of withdrawal.
Radio clip on the W in the state of withdrawal


FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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WT where did you go?

We're worried.

WWs get crazy quickly and you need to ACT FAST


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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