Hi, I'm new here. I am doing everthing I can do to restore my marriage. So, here goes., Over the last year, my wife says we have been having alot of problems. I thought it was just alot of little things at first. But over the last 4 months things have gotten bad. I had started working more at a second job, and she had started hanging out more with a perpetually single female friend. In the last 4 months she has gotten more independent and about a month ago, after I finally landed my dream job, we got in a huge fight about a small arguement(over me asking her to make a salad, while she was on the phone with her mom) I went outside, fired up the grill, came back inside ande she was crying. I will say thay I am not the best listener, but in the last month I have started to see a therapist, got put on antidepressants and mood stabilizers for PSD for work related and past emotional issues. Anyway, 2 days later, she walked out and has been living with her mom. I am really close with her parents and they are dumb founded, I ahve since figured out on my own that it is a 99.9% likely hood due to this sinlge female frine of hers putting idea in her head. I have never been emotionally, verbally, spiritually, or physically abusive towards my wife. I never met her friend and never thought twice about this friend, but after talking to everyone else in her family, we have all come to the same conclusion, this person has her ear. How can I win my wifes heart back. I have quit my second job, I am home more, I have been doing the Love Dare(Fire Proof) I even overnighted her a copy when I was out of town a month ago. She wants nothing to do with me. Her parents deny there is another person she is seeing. I have a strong hope and have been working The Law of Attraction as well. I need my wife back, my PTSD has gotten worse. I attempted suicide once in the last month(got help for that) But man, she is my best frined. I just want this little evil voice that has her ear to disappear. How can I make that happen?

Hi MedicRay, welcome to MArriage Builders. Sorry for the reasons that bring you here.

How long married? Any kids? When you say "PSD" do you mean post traumatic stress disorder?

And how do you know her "friend" is a female?

Suicide is not a solution for any problem. Go and fight for your love, just convey all your feelings in front of her. One day she'll definitely accept you. **edit**

Medic Ray,

My heart breaks for you. You have hope. When you get about 1/2 way through the Love Dare...you'll realize its not for her...and whoever has read it, knows what I am talking about. The power of "bad" friends is strong. Its important to surround yourself with people who value the commitment of marriage. Now, that being said...you can't control her emotions, who she hangs out with or how she feels. You are responsible for you. My honest guess is that she felt emotionally abandoned from you. You talk alot about your job(s)...she may have felt that your work was more important than her. (I am guilty of that). I learned I would rather be dirt poor and have my wife than chase my dream jobs and lose her. (I may have realized alot of this too late). Make your home a place where she can come back to and feel accepted and not judged. Maybe she needs some space. I STRONGLY urge you to see a counselor together, if she won't go then go along. Show her you are committed to meeting her needs. You have to be committed to meeting her needs if you want your marriage to last.