Back in 1999 My wife had a physical affair with my best friend.It took a long time but we worked passed it. We've had our ups and downs over the years. I didn't always do the right thing when it came to my wifes needs. But neither did she. Three years ago My dad got sick and after two years he passed away. I didn't handle my dads sickness or death well at all.I had a breakdown. I ended up losing my job and did nothing for months. I finally went back to work driving over the road. I'm a mechanic by trade. I was doing something different due to my health. I was gone for day and weeks at a time. when I was home all we did was fight over money and many stupid things. Everytime we talked on the phone we would fight. After almost a year of driving I went back to working on cars. My marriage was trashed. I found pics of a guy on her computer. The sad part is I knew this one also. This time it's and emotional affair. He lives out of state. She has not seen him in person in 24 years. The've been texting, talking and Facebook. She even had my kids lying to me. I want to work on my marriage but she says that she's in love with him. Now that my kids see how hard I want to fix this. They're turning on her. They didn't like lying to me. Now this is tearing my family apart because my wife won't disconnect from OM. I need help trying to keep my family together.

Welcome back.

You need to expose this far and wide. Exposure 101

Read this. Carrot and Stick of Plan A

Depressed H, I am so sorry you've had to come back here.

Who is this guy? Is he married?