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Ok, I screwed up the letter.

Anyway, after I set it, my WW began working the phone. One relative that I spoke to, said she was trying to convince them it wasn't as bad as I made it to be. My WW stuck to her story and focused on only one of the events, and told them that she only went out and after kissed the guy.

Hmmmm. I wonder if they think she was telling the truth, should I be hurt any less?

Also met with my attorney yesterday.

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Also met with my attorney yesterday.

For a beer? A round of golf?

Telling us what was discussed will better enable us to assist you.

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Also met with my attorney yesterday.

For a beer? A round of golf?

Telling us what was discussed will better enable us to assist you.

WHAT A MESS

As I said before, after my wife's most recent custody hearing (from her prior marriage), I was not allowed to be around her kids. Of course for the last three years, the stress of that, has brought so much destruction, even the reasons I am here now.

After meeting with my attorney, she asked me why, what did I do, why couldn't I be around her kids? I answered honestly, and told her, I don't know I wasn't at the the court. I told her, everything I know has come from my wife.

So my attorney obtained the transcripts of my wife's custody situation. These transcripts cover several hearings going back three years. Since that first day, I was not allowed to be around them and she lost custody.

To save a few bucks, my wife at the time, refused my advice to have an attorney represent us. He had one.

This is what I have learned from my attorney after reading the transcripts. Her tactic to win custody, was to prove her ex was abusive. While his tactic was to prove that I was a danger to his kids if she won.

Because my wife had no idea what she was doing, his attorney vilified me in her court case. Through lies, false allegation innuendo and manufactured evidence, he proved (in the judges mind) that I had somehow battered one of her kids!

In fact, my wife in her complete incompetence, focused only on herself and her effort to prove her ex was abusive, actually help them vilify me.

Geezzz. I am sitting here, reflecting on the many many things that happened to us, to me because of that false ruling. My wife has for the last three years, blamed me for her loosing her kids. She has acted out accordingly.

I sent her the relevant portion of the transcripts and she now realizes what actually went down right in front of her face. This changes everything.

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Also met with my attorney yesterday.

For a beer? A round of golf?

Telling us what was discussed will better enable us to assist you.

WHAT A MESS

As I said before, after my wife's most recent custody hearing (from her prior marriage), I was not allowed to be around her kids. Of course for the last three years, the stress of that, has brought so much destruction, even the reasons I am here now.

After meeting with my attorney, she asked me why, what did I do, why couldn't I be around her kids? I answered honestly, and told her, I don't know I wasn't at the the court. I told her, everything I know has come from my wife.

So my attorney obtained the transcripts of my wife's custody situation. These transcripts cover several hearings going back three years. Since that first day, I was not allowed to be around them and she lost custody.

To save a few bucks, my wife at the time, refused my advice to have an attorney represent us. He had one.

This is what I have learned from my attorney after reading the transcripts. Her tactic to win custody, was to prove her ex was abusive. While his tactic was to prove that I was a danger to his kids if she won.

Because my wife had no idea what she was doing, his attorney vilified me in her court case. Through lies, false allegation innuendo and manufactured evidence, he proved (in the judges mind) that I had somehow battered one of her kids!

In fact, my wife in her complete incompetence, focused only on herself and her effort to prove her ex was abusive, actually help them vilify me.

Geezzz. I am sitting here, reflecting on the many many things that happened to us, to me because of that false ruling. My wife has for the last three years, blamed me for her loosing her kids. She has acted out accordingly.

I sent her the relevant portion of the transcripts and she now realizes what actually went down right in front of her face. This changes everything.
How does it change everything? What are you going to do now?


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Did you answer the question someone asked as to why you are not allowed around her kids? If yes, can you point me to the post.

If not, then please explain to us the nature of that judgment.

Thanks

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Originally Posted by Skidman
This is what I have learned from my attorney after reading the transcripts. Her tactic to win custody, was to prove her ex was abusive. While his tactic was to prove that I was a danger to his kids if she won.

Because my wife had no idea what she was doing, his attorney vilified me in her court case. Through lies, false allegation innuendo and manufactured evidence, he proved (in the judges mind) that I had somehow battered one of her kids!

In fact, my wife in her complete incompetence, focused only on herself and her effort to prove her ex was abusive, actually help them vilify me.


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Dude, they aren't your kids.

It sounds like your WW is a mess. Why in the he77 do you want to stay in this excrement storm?

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Originally Posted by helpthelostdads
Dude, they aren't your kids.

It sounds like your WW is a mess. Why in the he77 do you want to stay in this excrement storm?

Ah, you men are so poetic. lashes

I concur.


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