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Just did this, jd. Expose, get her out of the house, and go to Plan B. You will feel SO much better!
Married: 22 years Me: BW 41 Him: WH 43 Sons: 19, 17, 12 Daughter: 16 DD 8/09 EA started 8/08 PA started 7/09 Brief recovery of a few months in there. Separated 10/10 Legal Separation 8/11 Plan B 5/17/12 Plan D 5/31/12 My Story
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Guys heres the thing about this. I'm finding out things about my wife thatwould have made be decide avainst considering a romantic relationship with her, much less marriage. Like her first sexual encounter with anyone was with a woman. Or her idea of friendship. The discovered DH from her is really sapping away any positive feelings I have for her.  She pushed to talk about it more, so I asked her to be O & H about everything. See above... Now she's sitting outside our front door. Just before that she was storming around the apartment. Have never seen her so angry before.
BH - 26
WW - 27
DD - 3
Married - 6/10/2006
DDay #1 - 6/6/2011, EA/Probable PA 02/2010 - 06/2011
DDay #2 - 12/11/2011, EA around 12/2011
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Is there any reason not to start a dark plan B now? as soon as you've done the things bh listed. ((jd))
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Guys heres the thing about this. I'm finding out things about my wife thatwould have made be decide avainst considering a romantic relationship with her, much less marriage. Like her first sexual encounter with anyone was with a woman. Or her idea of friendship. The discovered DH from her is really sapping away any positive feelings I have for her. She pushed to talk about it more, so I asked her to be O & H about everything. See above... Now she's sitting outside our front door. Just before that she was storming around the apartment. Have never seen her so angry before. Ok then you have no reason NOT to expose. Expose and prepare for Plan B. Can you get her out legally? Do not leave your house with your DD3 being there.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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BrainHurts,
We live in an apartment with both of our names on the lease. I believe she would have to willingly agree to allow herself out of the lease and our landlord would have to approve.
BH - 26
WW - 27
DD - 3
Married - 6/10/2006
DDay #1 - 6/6/2011, EA/Probable PA 02/2010 - 06/2011
DDay #2 - 12/11/2011, EA around 12/2011
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BrainHurts,
We live in an apartment with both of our names on the lease. I believe she would have to willingly agree to allow herself out of the lease and our landlord would have to approve. What if you packed her bags and told her she needs to get out? You refuse to live in a marriage with mulitple people. When are you exposing?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I believe she would have to willingly agree to allow herself out of the lease and our landlord would have to approve.
Oh, stop being cute - or letting her be cute.
Do you really think the landlord is going to give a rat's rectum who, or how many, is paying the rent? In about two minutes you and she could execute an agreement leaving one of you responsible for the rent.
Step up, my friend, and understand the situation as it actually exists, not as you wish it could have been.
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I believe she would have to willingly agree to allow herself out of the lease and our landlord would have to approve.
Oh, stop being cute - or letting her be cute.
Do you really think the landlord is going to give a rat's rectum who, or how many, is paying the rent? In about two minutes you and she could execute an agreement leaving one of you responsible for the rent.
Step up, my friend, and understand the situation as it actually exists, not as you wish it could have been. jd are you listening? Please read NG's advice again.
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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JD are you still around or did you give up?
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