My last post was about a year ago and it was concerning my husband's second emotional affair since being stationed in Germany on an unaccompanied tour. After reading everyone's advice I decided to try to make my marriage work but told him that if he did this to me again I would leave and never look back.

A few months later I found my husband's sexual conversation with another woman in his Facebook messages. That was this past September. Even though I have not left him like I said I feel that I have emotionally left the marriage.

He is coming home for good tomorrow and I can't even bring myself to be excited. I don't know that I can forgive him again. The emotional affairs and the cyber affair have left me feeling like there are greener pastures and that maybe I want to explore them.

Aside from the affairs my marriage has consisted of emotional and verbal abuse. My husband cried to me the other day and swore up and down that everything would change and that he's learned his lesson, but that is what he said the last several times too. I am feeling lost and confused. Should I just cut the strings and walk away?

I'm not a vet - they will be along to answer you in more detail, and with greater wisdom. But do you know Dr. Harley's stuff? Have you read through it? Read "Surviving and Affair?" Are you familiar with Plan A? Might be worth trying when your husband comes home. Do yo have children?

Just want you to know you are in a good place, and will find the help and support you need here. Keep checking.

Hi Braley welcome to MB I am sorry for the pain that has brought you here. You will find helpful advice, encouragement and support for your personal recovery and a chance for marital recovery if that is the path you decide to take. Give yourself time before making any decisions, there are so many emotions to deal with at the moment.

The vets will help offer advice and guide you along the way. They are more experienced when it comes to multiple EA/PA and any form of abuse. In the meantime in Notable Posts there are some threads that will help until you receive that advice.

Know you are not alone and the support you will receive are from people who have walked in your shoes and understand first hand the pain you are going through.

If you could post some more information that would be helpful. How long have you been married, do you have any children, is the OW a co-worker?

If you follow this program you will fall in love with your WH.

What have you done to affair proof your marriage?

What is your plan to get 20 hrs of UA a week?

What EP's has your WH put in place?