I have not thought of it that way. How can I get his information legally? and isn't this just going to really piss her off?

He removed his Facebook profile and his patience are protected via HIPPA

My fear is that this is all just a bunch of nothing...sabre rattling so to speak...she will leave this house determined to make it work with him and 3 to 6 months down the road be right back contacting me...She had her chance to make it work already...7 months ago I said ok...if this is what you want go ahead ....and she missed me too much to stay gone...will that happen again?

Bruinsb,

How can I get his information legally? and isn't this just going to really piss her off?

www.veromi.com often times you can get the names of all family members
www.linkedin.com create a fake account, expose professionally
www.facebook.com create a fake account

God Bless
Gamma

Bruinsb,



God Bless
Gamma

Please read this.

Ok maybe I misunderstood here...I exposed already to family and friends..she of course did not want them to know and I told them....as far as work collegues no ...

THIS needs to stop immediately.

Thinking outside the box here but what if you told your wife that they can't work together on those 30 clients anymore. Either she gives them up...they split them up or whatever but that IF she disagrees and insists on maintaining this working relationship that you'll have no choice but to picket his office handing out flyers to any and all of his clients as they arrive until you are able to weed out all the "Joint" clients you can. This is one situation where a threat may work because OM's got a place of business that is all to easy to disrupt...LEGALLY. The sidewalk is a public space.

It just occurred to me....you MAY want to snoop and get a list of the exact clients they share BEFORE you go around insisting on anything. I don't know how that would effect YOUR job but it wouldn't hurt to secretly have that list and then at least you'll know exactly who they are and figure out your options later. For example, perhaps your parents could write them all a letter out of concern for your family.

Long term...you may have to move as it's too easy for them to have dealings with one another in their local professional circle.

You can't even BEGIN to save your marriage with a third person in it.

Welcome to MB.

Mr. Wondering

Bruin-

There is a certain set of steps to be taken here and please do yourself a favor dont question them as they are suggested to you. These are time tested techniques to destroy adulterous relationships developed by the owner of this website. Read all the material available for free on this site and buy Surviving an Affair and His Needs, Her Needs and then give them to her to read.

Next, the term nuclear exposure is used here because, bar none, there is no other technique ends affairs like it. You started out very well with family and friends but his family and friends need to know too.

Your wife is considering destroying the lives of innocents and this guy is complicit in this. Personally, taking into consideration your large size, a personal visit to him wouldnt be out of the question. If I had a wife I wanted to get back, Id be leaving very few things off the table as methods.

Fight for you family, my man. Once you get her out of her fogged out hypnosis this head shrink has put on her, you can then come back here and learn how to make make you marriage insanely good. Like never before.

Let's do this.

Thanks for all the advice I have received. I just feel like giving up. So tired of the wondering and pain. Can she be happy with him? She says she can. Can I be happy alone ? I have before. I proved already I could live with our her and be fine but has yet to prove she can live without me. Maybe this just is not meant to be? I pray often and just get drug down all over again. My poor children.

Bruinsb,

I know you want to give up, but do think of your children, even if you divorce this OM might not be the kind of person your children should be around.

Preserving your WW as a Mother for your children is another reason for breaking up this affair.

The OM sounds like a catch, abuse, then release, then re-catch sort of guy, I think you may be able to dig up former affair partners of his to give testimony to your WW.

Is this OM much older than your WW?

What do you know about OM?

God Bless
Gamma

No you report him to the medical board that holds his license. You mail, email, and contact all their colleagues and tell them what is happening.

You find out if there is a head doctor ... you tell everyone and anyone who will listen this doctor is stealing your wife.

Don't even tell me this will compromise your clearance or whatever ... many of us on here hold top ones with the government. EXPOSURE will not harm you in anyway.

You will blow this thing up the minute you expose to work. You want your wife? Then run this sorry loser ... who should lose his license BTW ... out of town. Get a lawyer to let him know you will sue him for emotional stress and will make sure it is a public trial.

He is a scaredy cat ... run him off.

He is 11 years older...pretty simple guy really..

I actually met him once a few years ago.. He is 52 she is turning 40...he is not the dev and that is apart if the problem.... He and his soon to be ex wife have battled for 5 years over custody of there son... When I found out about the initial affair he had his lawyer draw up an affidavit saying that he was indeed involved in an extra marital affair with my wife so that we could speed up the divorce process.. He is not afraid of getting called out

So he won't mind when you expose him to the medical board, hospital and to his family members?

Does this scumbag have a facebook page?

I pray so often and yet the hits just keep coming... I do believe god wants us together and my family in tact but I wonder what lesson do we all have to learn? Is this god will? Why do I call to him so often and the pain just keeps coming? I ask once again can her relationship with him succeed with all this guilt and pain?

He canceled his Facebook page a while ago

Are you not reading our posts? God sent you here because he wants you to take ACTION and stop allowing yourself to be paralyzed by fear.

Exposure is your best weapon against the affair. Expose the affair wide and far. Expose to their professional board, to their families, to everyone. Go to your wife and demand that she quit that job NOW and never contact him again.

You are going to have to be more proactive here if you want to save your marriage.

Families already know and she has her own practice..friends know...I have already demanded she stop talking to him or she needs to leave.