I've been admiring you consistent references to MB concepts with your extensive links, and I think they go a long way toward keeping posters on track with Dr. H's work. It is very easy for some posters to devolve into mutual navel-gazing, childhood dysfunction and personal introspection that wastes time and distracts from the business of building a fantastic marriage. There was a time when the people posting here made a mockery of MB concepts, with self-absorption and mutual back-patting being the rule of the day. (Think "I'm Okay, You're Okay, ad nauseum.) MB tools were largely ignored.

How refreshing to have members like you keep the posters here on track! (I'm not ignoring the other posters who do the same, and there are many - but this post's for you )

Thank you for what you do!

Thank you so very much. When I first started to post my story I wouldn't get responded to for days and so I told myself I need to go research for myself and so I would read and read and read. Maybe a little obsessive.

I remember reading on here before I registered and would see the advice from posters that were their "own interpretation". I was shocked. I would say to myself, "that wasn't what I would read from the concepts here" and then I would go look and study. I loved the radio program because I could hear Dr. Harley's response to the many questions we discuss on the forums.

I was so happy when I would see Mel and Pep, markos, Triple H and you (and many more) post the links, because I would have more information to read and understand. Sometimes it is so clear but can get blurry when posters post their own interpretation.

I have been on the show a few times and received many of my free books that way. I think I have 3 copies of SAA.

I want to share it so much that I actually have made a little library for myself with notes of shows and such. I was getting tired of trying to remember in my head.

It is so nice to have the appreciation. It's refreshing to know my hard work is appreciated. Thank you MB!!

I'm sure I'm telling something you're already going to do: pass out the extra copies of the books

Keep doing what you're doing

Thanks, my friend, will do.

Yup I already have given them away.

Brainhurts,

I concur with MB. Your posts are great. And your ability to reference is amazing.

I'll have to write the radio show more often. I recently gave my SAA book to the woman who was our maid of honor 30 years ago. Sad.

AM

Thank you.
Will she come here armymama?

BH, I just want to thank you for your tireless efforts on MB. You point people in the right direction, and offer a life line when they most need it.

I thank you from the bottom of my heart, as I know IRL how difficult this can be. I'm glad you're here.

I think you know what I mean.

You're very welcome. Thank you, my friend.

The best way I would learn was reading the articles, books and forums and listening to the radio show. It would really click for me when I would hear Dr. H explain it.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

And that is what you do. You LEAD.

I am learning I have to stop trying to make the horse drink... I think my own issues in not having had the opportunity for marital recovery hamper my own efforts to help others.

Please know that your efforts are not in vain, even in some cases where it may seem so. They are appreciated by ME, who sometimes struggles to help others who have opportunities I feel I never had.

And I know your help is appreciated by those who directly receive it too.

Car,

I think you give wonderful advice and you're a "vet" in my eyes. Like Mel's definition on vets you fall into that category.

Like everyone was discussing on the "what makes a vet" thread. Just because you may be in Plan B, divorced or recovered doesn't mean you don't know the MB concepts. You can be single, married, separated or divorced and still be knowledgeable of Dr. Harley's concepts and can teach them.

I used to read on here way before I started posting and was so confused because it was hard to follow. You would have posters that would teach the concepts and then others giving their own opinions. I knew I loved Dr. Harley's concepts but I would get confused when I'd read advice that didn't line up with MB. So I started studying more and writing Dr. Harley.

I do know what you mean by sometimes some posters won't follow, but as long as you're teaching MB concepts. How can you be wrong? There are so many anonymous lurkers (that's what I used to be) that read what is written. that you never know who may be learning.

Oooh, shucks BH

The thing is, I know I am not yet a vet. I have learned a lot, but I still have a lot to learn.

You are right though, we never know what we may teach lurkers. I chose to become a poster through sheer desperation, but others may be more reluctant for whatever reason. I now choose to post for healing, and hopefully to help others following my path.

IRL, I struggle to give advice on those in recovery because I was never offered that opportunity. Please know that you are plugging that gap for many people, lurkers or poster. Including one poster I know . You are helping ME where I am falling down.

I am forever grateful... Now, you get my point?

I do and I wish all the best for....

And who knows, someone might come back and reread what you have written and benefit from it years down the road.